What is the damn point?

[MissWinter01]

ExH Mother came round today laden down with presents from ExH to DD. He doesn't see DD through his own choice.

What is the point in this?

They came in a gift bag so I had a wee peek (shoot me) and they are all noisy toys too

Probably in his fucked up head, this makes him dad of the year.

Or your Ex MIL has bought them and is pretending they're from him.

Bizarre.

How old is your DD? Tell her they're from Santa.

I'll bet they are from HER not him, not sure of her reasoning/motive but I bet its that way.

Hmmm possibly. Never thought of that. What an odd thing to do lol.

She did say she bought the gift bag this morning but I just assumed he was still too damn lazy to wrap prezzies (I always done it for him) and asked his Mum to do it.

He's trying to win her love.

It won't work.

She's only 2 and he has said before he wants nothing to do with her, doesn't love her and a multitude of the same worded differently.

He likes to tell people he wants nothing to do with me either (suits me, he's not my favorite person either) but if he wants nothing to do with DD or me? Where are my Christmas Presents?? I'm feeling left out. (Joking!!)

I bet they're from his mum really. I'd not give them to her, especially if unsuitable & noisy

She clearly wants contact with her granddaughter. And is desperate for her son to play a part in her life too.

I agree with Bowlersarm - your business OP, not mine, but I somehow feel there's something desperately sad about her doing that. Maybe she could have contact with her grandmother and not her feckless Dad...

I think she did it to try to build bridges between you, maybe so you would contact him to say thank you - she does sound like she wants to have a relationship with DD - does she see her? GPs are important to a child even if their father is a waste of space.

I think she does it out of embarrassment that her son doesn't.

Sorry I should of made it clear in my OP. She has regular contact with DD, always has and always will. Today's visit was a prearranged visit for us to exchange Christmas Presents. She didn't just turn up on my doorstep out of the blue. We have a great relationship. I was just a bit taken aback by the presents from DD's Dad.

WitchWay They aren't unsuitable, they are bloody noisy but I'm not really bothered about it, I buy her noisy toys every Birthday and Christmas and spend the next 6 months regretting it lol.

it's incredibly cruel that he says he doesn't love her. What a shockingly awful thing to say. You are well rid.

It is she was 6 weeks old when he said that and I've never looked back since. It would be more cruel to keep up a pretense though so I'm glad I know and she can live her life with the family who adore her :-)

She probably got them as she feels bad that her son is suck a dickhead. Maintain a relationship with her if she is nice and he can go fuck himself.

Pictish has nailed it
If you have a fab relationship with her then she must be embarrassed her son is a twat

Thing is she isn't really... I mean it when I say we have a good relationship but she is a bit old school and it's not really her style, now that I think of it. I think they probably are from him as he has started working recently.

Maybe pressure from his Mum to do it though? I don't know, guess I never will.