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to hide DH's blackberry

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wandymum · 23/12/2013 18:45

For the duration of the Xmas hols?

It was his first day off today and he has e-mailed all through a show at the theatre, throughout lunch in a restaurant, whilst kids played this afternoon an his now on his laptop 'catching up'.

I've suggested he allocate a set couple of hours a day to work and ignore it the rest of the time but he refuses.

Fed up of me and the kids only ever having half of his attention.

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YouTheCat · 23/12/2013 18:47

Declare a 'no tech' afternoon and get the games out.

dozeydoris · 23/12/2013 18:49

Next time he appears amorous say 'oh, sorry, must send a txt, it'll have to wait'.

koTinkaBell · 23/12/2013 18:52

I'd be tempted to spill coffee over it repeatedly

Brokenpurpleheart · 23/12/2013 18:53

Show him 'I forgot my phone' on YouTube - it's genius but can't link as on ipad

MrsMargoLeadbetter · 23/12/2013 18:55

YANBU.

The kids are likely to remember him as not really "there". I wonder what it does for DC self-esteem to have parents basically prioristing a device over them.

Holiday/time off is so precious, it is a shame to waste it doing unpaid (as it were) work.

ProfondoRosso · 23/12/2013 18:56

Aaargh, I feel your pain, OP. I wish I could stomp on DH's Blackberry, but I know he worries and gets stressed if he's not 'on.' Thankfully when we were on our honeymoon he had it switched off 90% of the time. Then his blinking brother (who works for the same organization) phones him on our last way to talk work. I was raging, just wish he could have stayed switched off at least until we got home.

Don't get me wrong, I'm proud of him for working so hard but I hate this culture we have of being contactable for work at all times. And there's no such thing as Out of Office. Seriously, I'm going to hunt down whoever invented the Blackberry and boot them up the rear.

Twinsplusonesurprise · 23/12/2013 18:57

Ha!
When you get an answer can you tell me?
Plagued by wretched iPhone. How did we live before? Think we managed conversations! I have had to text DH before to get him to listen - from one room in the house to the other.
Mind you, he's self employed and works really hard.

livinginawinterwonderland · 23/12/2013 18:57

Accidentally chuck it out of a second storey window.

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wandymum · 23/12/2013 19:02

I'm actually too wimpy to hide it as I know how criss he'll be but may try to engineer an accident to it. DD has already destroyed my phone with juice so am thinking I might encourage her to have a nice big open cup of ribena and a play with Daddy's 'special phone'.

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koTinkaBell · 23/12/2013 19:06

nice to fantasize about but I suspect he might sulk.

daisychain01 · 23/12/2013 19:17

wandy, unfortunately hiding it will make you the bad person Sad which isn't fair on you and sounds like he may get annoyed. Very difficult when a job needs the person to be 'on call' or where your livelihood relies on keeping in touch. Tough times at the moment, and your DH is probably very aware of that.

He's the only person who can decide for himself not to be welded to his Blackberry (I've had loads of similar convo's with my DP!) ... could you and he agree on 2 x brief (15 min max) daily check of phone (morning and afternoon/evening), just enough to deal with urgencies.

That could just quell his worry about not being 'in touch'.

if all he's doing is surfing the net then YANBU to dunk it in DD's Ribena

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