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To not know how to handle this with my Dad?

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Meh84 · 23/12/2013 16:14

Me and my Dad had a huge falling out yesterday over my husband not saying hello to him when he came in.

He called me later on in the evening and just went mad. He called my DH a knob and a muppet, he made a claim that my marriage was in trouble because I'm on anti-depressants (this is not the case whatsoever!)

Dads on anti-depressants himself and isn't well, he's also receiving counselling. He's registered disabled because he can't walk properly, he gets down because sometimes he can't move to go out.

I do his shopping, his cleaning and help him look after his 16 year old son. I listen, and do the best I can to help him when he's upset/crying/angry and I bring the children to see him as often as I possibly can.....but this has upset me so much and I don't know what to do.

My DH now doesn't want him in the house anymore, and has apologised to me for causing so much trouble when he meant nothing by it at all.

His tone of voice was so angry and bitter, I've never heard him like that before.

I feel so sad.

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Fudgeface123 · 23/12/2013 16:19

Sounds like a bit of a major over-reaction on your dads' part. Did your O/H just ignore him then....that's a little strange if so

BeerTricksPotter · 23/12/2013 16:32

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Meh84 · 23/12/2013 16:34

No he didn't totally ignore him. Once he was finished he came into the room and sat with us, it's an odd situation and I totally agree with you beer

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notanotherusername1 · 23/12/2013 17:51

Agree with Beer.

My DM is very ill and her temper/attitude/general behaviour can be vile but I know it's her illness. I have a knot in my stomach when visiting in case her mood is vile.

Please do not let anyone ban your Dad from your home.

This needs sorting out ASAP before it festers anymore, don't let it build up.

AwfulMaureen · 23/12/2013 17:59

Once he was finished with what OP?

nikkihollis · 23/12/2013 18:17

My ex and his family had this habit of ignoring people when they walked into a room. He rarely said hello to my parents or other members of my family when they came round. Or he'd say it very brusquely. It really pissed me off. I think it is really rude to not acknowledge someone who comes to your house and although your Father sounds like he went completely OTT saying your marriage is in trouble and calling your DH a knob etc, I do understand him being upset.

HECTheHeraldAngelsSing · 23/12/2013 18:18

Even if he was pissed off with your husband, why yell at you about it?
if he wants to yell at someone, why not your husband?

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