To not acknowledge what's happened?

[MissWinter01]

I have my ex husbands Mum coming round tomorrow. Her son (who lives with her) has officially stopped seeing DD (he didn't see her much anyway before) there has been a lot of hassle with abusive texts, phonecall's etc. I have made a CMS claim and that has been the reason behind the last few abusive and threatening texts that I received.

I know she will probably bring it up but I don't feel I have to discuss it with her as quite frankly it would just consist of me telling her what an awful human being her son is which I doubt would go down to well. I have also been told that she has told them he doesn't live with her which is lies.

Should I discuss with her or not?

Sorry just to clarify I have also been told she told CMS that he doesn't live there.

Is she coming to see your DD? If so, and she brings it up, just say that it's not an appropriate thing to discuss in front of your DD, then change the subject. If she's not coming to see DD then don't answer the door.

She is coming to see DD. She comes every few weeks.

Yeah that's what I was thinking. I just doubt she'll leave it at that she is quite opinionated to say the least and has a I'll say whatever I want and to hell with anyone else attitude.

It's the first time we've seen her properly since this has all happened. I know she'll have been fed a version of events, mostly made up from EXH, it's just anyone's guess what that version might be.

What's CMS?

If she starts getting arsey then make it clear she'll be treated the same as ex in future.

Let her in, tell her the truth, let her know that if she spouts anything but the truth, she will be banned in future!

Child Maintenance Services (New CSA)

I wouldn't stop her from seeing DD. I never actually stop my ex from seeing her either. He chose which is fine, he doesn't get to change his mind back though.