was my birthday two days ago. DH and I haven't been getting on well for several weeks, partly due to financial problems but there's other stuff in the background as well. I just don't feel he prioritizes family time at the moment -- when he's at home he just doesn't have the inclination to do anything with me and dd, just wants to sleep and watch TV and gets resentful if pressed to do anything more.
In part I understand as he's working v hard to support the household and is exhausted, but I am frustrated that he seems to resent ever giving up any free time to do the smallest thing with me and DD -- a walk in the park, a pub lunch etc, but usually goes to the pub at least one weekend and one week night. Outings with me and DD are only ever done after nagging from me, never spontaneously and even then once in a blue moon.
He got nothing for me for my birthday, not even a card. Didn't even say happy birthday and didn't get me anything from DD. I kept hoping he was going to spring a surprise and take me somewhere, not a bit of it. He's just said he's going to cook me a nice dinner, but it turns out to be something - admittedly something I quite like -- which he cooks once a fortnight or so anyway. He's also just spent £80 on a phone for himself and over a hundred quid on a christmas present for DD, so while we do have financial problems its not like he couldn't have found £20 to treat me. I mentioned to him last week that I'd really like to go to a new pub in our area this weekend for a pub lunch and said I'd even pay if he was skint. He hasn't picked up on the hint.
He is under stress at the moment and life isn't easy but I feel really heartbroken that he couldn't just have found one way to let me know he was thinking about me. And yes I have mentioned it and he looked a bit sorrowful and said that I'm old enough not to mind not having a fuss made of my birthday.