To be a bit pissed off with DH

[frasierfanatic]

We're going away tomorrow for a few days. I've spent the past two days doing washing, packing, wrapping presents etc, ready for us to go, as per usual whenever we go somewhere.

DH spent most of the morning faffing around, going on the laptop and not really doing anything to help get things ready for us to go. When he finally decided to get his arse into gear at around 2pm he started trying to delegate things to me as if I'd done nothing all day. Kind of 'I'll do you a deal, Frasierfanatic, you do the dishwasher and tidy the kitchen and I'll clean the car out ready for tomorrow'

I told him that no, I'm doing other things and certainly haven't been sitting around on my bum all day, and if he wants the kitchen cleaned now he can jolly well do it himself. He's now in a bad mood with me.

He always does this; it's as if he can just sit around and have as much leisure time as he wants, but when he decides to do something I've got to chip in too. Grrrrr

Tee I have a grown up up partner too. You're not alone.

Start the day by sorting out between you what you are going to do. Expect him to share the responsibilities and he might do it.

I think some people will do what they can get away with.

MFC which one do you mean? I think there's probably more than one...

I also have a grown up partner BTW. It's really insulting to the many decent men around to talk as if men are somehow incapable of doing standard day-to-day life tasks properly.

I have a different definition of grownup, I think.
It's not having to be asked, but being able to look around you and see that the kitchen's a shitheap, or the bins are overflowing, or the floor is crunchy.
I get sick to death of being the bloody general.

MAF, it's hard to pick a one you know

Mumsnet is full of women putting up with shit behaviour, attempting to laugh it off and then getting arsey when you point it out...those threads are ten a penny and nothing new under the sun there

not me that has to live with it

"It's really insulting to the many decent men around to talk as if men are somehow incapable of doing standard day-to-day life tasks properly."

Yes. This.

And MAF that's exactly what I mean. I never have to tell my husband to do anything. He just does things. Whether it is sticking in a load of wash because all of our underwear is getting low or giving the kitchen an extra wipe, he just does it. Because he's a grown up who also lives in this house.

my brother does this to me, when i am visiting him at my mums house. where i don't even live.

i don't object to hanging a washing out etc when i'm there and mum's out ... i do object to my brother making "deals" with me that he will load the dishwasher if i clean the rest of the kitchen, after he has made a cooked breakfast, for himself and it's all his mess.