AIBU to now give up

[Sadoldbag]

We'll I will start from the start lol

I have two sister who each have two children whom I love dearly

Sister A has a step son 10 and a daughter 3 sister b has boy12 and daughter 7

Every year I send birthday gifts, Christmas and Easter and a note wishing them good luck at the start of each school year

However and very sadly my kids get nothing from them not so much as a card or a phone call on birthdays

We recently adopted a baby girl (1) and sent out announcement cards and yep not a phone call to even say congrats

Sister A only lives 10 minute drive away and also a bus run directly from her house to mine I haven't seen her for a year her choice not mine always to busy and has never invited me to her home I have only been there 5 times

Sister B lived about a 20 minute drive and I haven't seen her for almost 2 years again her choice when ever we arrange to meet up sHe either is late and I mean 2 /3 hours or stays in her room in the hone or "pops out" while leaving me with the kids and comes back hours later.
She spends every weekend clubbing her choice with her kids at her Nan's

I really want to keep contact with my nieces and nephews and have my children know there cousins but my sister won't seem bothered

any who the straw that broke the camels back is I wanted to drop all there gifts off today even though I know they haven't got my kids anything again assisted B told me to come this mornings drove down there surprise surprise she is not bloody in and sister A has made plans to go away and she will contact me when "she's" not busy ffs so I left the gifts in there bin cupboards, but I think I am going to give up next year just send cards I spend a lot of time and money we really could use now we have a new baby and I don't even get five minutes to give them the gifts I am sick of posting presents to children who live round the corner espically when there is not even a follow up thank you call nothing I want to see the children not send things out in the post FFS

So I gonna take the hint and give up AIBU

YANBU, tis really

Of course you're not.

For whatever reason, they've made their feelings clear.

Are they likely to wonder why though? (even though it's obvious)

Yanbu :(

Congratulations on the adoption :)

It got to the stage with sister A at one point were she simply was not answering my calls or texts and I had to contact her via her partner

Which was awkward for us both(he's really lovely btw) I would never of done this however she was our reference for adoption regretted putting her down but we couldn't change it once we had.

Oh my god why you have continued as long as you have is beyond me!!

Shame about the kids but you not having a relationship with them anyway

Your sisters are very weird - have you had a falling out at some point?

Of course you're not! For whatever crappy, horrible reason/s they've made themselves quite clear.

Give up and concentrate on your immediate family. And congratulations on your new daughter :)

And yes, did you have a big row at some point?

Focus on your own little family.

Congratulations on your little girl. I definitely think you shouldn't bother in the future as the is no appreciation.

Yanbu at all. Sounds like you've put a hell of an effort in to get nothing in return. I'd give up abd concentrate on your lo. If they start behaving themselves maybe start again but just make it nice for you and your child.

Have you ever asked them why?

Hester that's the thing we have not had a row

I think sadly for both of my sisters there lives still revolve around clubbing at the weekend

Very into Facebook Twitter ,Instagram very sort of out on the social circle They pretty much go out 3/4 nights after work and sister B is not at her home any more at weekends

Some of you may have caught my thread about her answering. Video call from me while she was having sex with some random

I actually feel very hurt especially by sister Bs behaviour since she has come out as gay I am the only one that has stuck by her , all but me is talking to her and some siblings still don't even know (we have diffrent mums)

Her mum brother and uncle are no longer speaking to her

oh how

do the boys have their own phones or facebook or any similar chat identity?

just thinking, perhaps you could at least send the boys a friendly message direct to them from time to time, and ask them to pass the messages on to their sisters.

congratulations on the arrival of your daughter

THey sound like they need to grow up!

I heart MR sad old bag did think of that but I don't think it's right to use children a vessels to pass on adult messages and along the way because there children the message would certainly come out wrong both boys on each side are still quite young.

I have done my bit I love those kids to bits however like other have said I now have a teen and a baby and to be honest I could do with a bit of support myself can't afford emotionally or finically to run after other peoples children espiaclly and they neither want or appreciate it

I agree with the other posters. Focus on your baby girl and making friendships with other people who reciprocate your kindness and generosity.

Congratulations on your new daughter. That's wonderful!