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To think that you should turn up when you say?

18 replies

startwig1982 · 22/12/2013 13:01

My lovely inlaws are coming for lunch. Having spoken last night mil said what time and I said 12.30pm. She said that that should be ok and they'd definitely be with us for 1pm. They've just phoned to say they're just leaving(20 mins) away.
All the veg is cooked, and I know I can just keep it warm but I do feel a bit annoyed. AIBU to think they should have either phoned earlier to say they will be late or just not have agreed to a time they would find it difficult to meet?

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Bowlersarm · 22/12/2013 13:04

So that means they would have walked through your door and had to sit down and start eating straight away?

YABU. 20 minutes late shouldn't be a big deal.

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startwig1982 · 22/12/2013 13:05

No because they were originally coming at 12.30! I had cooked for 1pm.

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HermioneWeasley · 22/12/2013 13:07

YANBU. It's very rude. Really boils my piss. I'd have started without them

Balaboosta · 22/12/2013 13:12

Never put the veg in until the guests arrive.

Bowlersarm · 22/12/2013 13:40

No - last night they said they be with you by 1.00!

You posted at 1.01 that the vegetables were cooked. Therefore you were expecting them to walk through the door at 1.00 and sit down to eat at 1.01. Would you have let them take their costs off first, OP?!

LaGuardia · 22/12/2013 15:03

Time to put the sprouts on to boil for Christmas Day, OP Smile

AlpacaPicnic · 22/12/2013 15:06

Arriving 'by' 1pm is different in my mind from arriving 'at' 1pm... I'd have assumed they would have arrived no later than ten to the hour... Take coats off, small talk aboit weather, wash hands, fix drinks, sit and eat.

CrohnicallySick · 22/12/2013 15:11

I can see startwig's point though- MIL asked what time lunch would be served and startwig said 12:30, it's then up to the ILs to make sure they are there in time, surely (or if they knew they couldn't make it then last night was the time to say).

And like a PP, 'definitely with you for 1pm' to me means arriving at any time prior to 1pm but absolutely not after. Whereas 'we'll be there about 1pm' would imply a small window either side, say between 12:45 and 1:15.

Andrewofgg · 22/12/2013 17:39

Some people are late for everything. It's just their way. They probably arrived in the world after their due date.

BerryChristmas · 22/12/2013 17:42

I'd serve up their lunches, put them on the table.......and leave them to get cold.

Trills · 22/12/2013 17:55

If an adult says that they will do something, they should do it, barring unexpected circumstances.

This also means that people should think a bit harder before they say that they will do something!

frustratedashell · 22/12/2013 18:09

It is annoying but I have learnt not to put the veg on till they arrive.

WitchWay · 22/12/2013 18:12

By one o'clock means by one at the latest

Never start the (green) veg till guests have arrived

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startwig1982 · 22/12/2013 18:14

I assumed that by agreeing to 12.30 pm and saying they would definitely be there by 1pm, that I could cook for 1pm!
Anyway it all worked out, I just kept it warm and it was scrummy!Smile

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TalkieToaster · 22/12/2013 18:17

YABU, for using the word 'scrummy'. I haaaaaate that word.

Skogkat · 22/12/2013 18:19

They definitely should.

Mind you, where my DP is from, they all seem to be late Hmm When we lived there (Spain) for a bit, if an invite told you to come at 7, I soon learnt this meant about 9 or so. Wtf?

HermioneWeasley · 22/12/2013 18:19

With Talkie on this one, I was with you until you said "scrummy"

doasyouwouldbedoneby · 22/12/2013 19:11

scrummy=belly=fab=chap................aghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

YABU if using any of these words

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