AIBU to take DD to supermarket

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Stupid AIBU but thought I would try

DD has disabilities (hidden) wears helmet, stint and sits in sn chair. If I were to take her to supermarket would I be unreasonable.

Disclaimer - we have no Christmas dinner in or fresh food.

 - she has recently decided to start screaming loudly, at spontaneous times, and is shrill.

Other shoppers would not know this.

People will probably recognise that she has sn and be understanding. My local asda is huge and very loud so to be honest if she did scream out it would not be a big deal. Plenty of other non sn kids scream and run in the supermarket I personally don't have a problem with this if I did I would shop online but then I am pretty chilled about kids in public screaming I feel for the parents when it happens.

All children can scream and/or be shrill! I wouldn't think twice. Will she find it distressing? (Noise?) if so then I'd think if someone could sit with her.

Yanbu of course you should take her, if people have a problem with this they are being very unreasonable

YANBU- I can't think of any reason why you shouldn't take her except that she would find it distressing ( busy, bright lights, prob rather noisy)

A shrill scream might make me jump, I'd probably look round out of instinct. When I saw your dd I would smile and hope that I hadn't made you feel uncomfortable by looking.

I meant if she would find it distressing...

Not unreasonable. She's got just as much right to be in public as any other member of the public.

If anyone is horrid about her that's their problem although I realise it's not nice to feel your child is stared at or judged.

But tbh anyone who goes to a supermarket last Sunday before Christmas and expects silence and calm is barmy.

As long as she'd be OK about being there, not distressed by the crowd and noise, take her.

If your DD would feel uncomfortable or distressed then perhaps not. If you are worried about her making nose and annoying others then YADBU... take your lovely girl shopping and possibly throw in a well deserved treat! .

You would not be unreasonable.

Just to say though I would probably react exactly like thorn, I get jumpy at sudden noises, but I would not be annoyed, irritated or in the least bit judgy that you had your child out with you. Anyone who would is an arse of the first degree and should not be allowed out in public themselves.

if she is fine go for it.... we have a lovely little girl who often comes in our shop - she often screeches and exclaims loudly, she can't help it, some people stop and stare -

I probably did the first couple of times.... people are not generally horrid or judgey - just a bit surprised by it..

(though I have learned not to judge those who stop and stare - some adults have anxiety issues too..)

Thanks, sometimes she finds the supermarket too much, sometimes she is fine, it depends on the day.

We normally rush around as quickly as possible and tbh I don't normally take her, I go in school times.

Regardless of whether you child has SN, you presumably need to shop and eat just like the rest of us. It's s no brainer, of course you should go.

If anyone has a problem with your dd making a noise, well, it's just that, isn't it? Their problem.

The supermarket will be busy today, though, so if you think she might find it too much, maybe make a list so that you can be in and out as quickly as possible!

you need to shop you need to just go and take your dd with you people will be really busy and it is a noisy supermarket anyway just go it doesn't matter if she screams or is noisy,

YANBU if you were thinking of upsetting other people, it's neither yours nor your daughters fault that she has special needs, if they are 'upset, annoyed' or anything else they can go screw themselves in my opinion.

YABU to take her if she would find it really distressing being in a busy environment though (unless you have absolutely no choice) if this is the case, could you do an online shop or do you have a DH/DM or someone to look after her for a few hours?