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To be abit upset about my Xmas pressie from dh

61 replies

Mummytotwox · 21/12/2013 15:05

I had told dh that there was nothing I wanted for Xmas. But changed my mind last week and decided I want/need a make up box. So I sent him a like and he said he will get it. It is £20.

Iv brought him quiet abit this year.

He's just gave me my pressie early as we're going to a hotel for the night for works do.

It's a jewellery box. It's unstable for what I want. He told me it was on offer for 12.99.

I'm really gutted. I don't even have nay jewellery. Lol.

Aibu to be abit gutted. :(

OP posts:
Ruffcat · 21/12/2013 15:06

Maybe he got you the make up for Christmas Day?

LaGuardia · 21/12/2013 15:08

I feel sorry for him.

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Mummytotwox · 21/12/2013 15:09

I haven't said anything, iv thanked him lots, and have him kisses. But I just feel like "bloody hell man I even sent you the link to the one I wanted" lol. Least he tried lol

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Monetbyhimself · 21/12/2013 15:10

Lol

VanitasVanitatum · 21/12/2013 15:14

LaG why do you feel sorry for him? OP didn't say she'd expressed how she felt.

I can see why op would feel a bit upset that he'd rather save seven pounds than get the one she wants, especially seeing as it was a totally different kind of box.. I would just wait a while then get the one you wanted in January some time when he'll probably have forgotten!

ToucanBlack · 21/12/2013 15:15

I've never understood the point in telling DH what I want as a present, when what I want is a surprise! I've always thought if I have to tell someone exactly what I want, I may as well just but it myself Confused

Just buy yourself the makeup set (and some jewellery for your new box while your at it). Wink

AnnabelleLee · 21/12/2013 15:18

Why are you lolling if you are upset? Confused

Chocotrekkie · 21/12/2013 15:18

This is why I have bought all my own presents this year again and handed them to him.

He will probably wrap them.

Had far to many years of wasting money on things that I don't like - even when I told him exactly the one I wanted.

womma · 21/12/2013 15:20

Has he still got the receipt? You could tell him you really wanted the one you told him about and you'd like to get that. It might make him take notice for next time instead of buying the one on special offer. Men eh?

ThurlHoHoHow · 21/12/2013 15:23

It's a present. It is a gift, not an obligation Hmm

StupidMistakes · 21/12/2013 15:25

Or MAYBE he has bought you some really nice jewellery to go in it, to give you on Christmas day?

bigbarns · 21/12/2013 15:34

I also received one of my (at least I hope there may be others) pressies early...some oven gloves.

rockybalboa · 21/12/2013 15:38

What's the LOL for? Why are you laughing out loud if you are upset?

To the point, I would say that he probably has no concept of the difference between a jewellery box and a makeup box, saw one that he thought looked like the the one you sent him in the link but was cheaper and thought "that will do". I'm not even sure I know what a make-up box is anyway. You can't be too cross about having bought him quite a lot where you've been telling him you didn't want anything.

lollilou · 21/12/2013 15:39

I said to dh this year that I wanted a pair of unusual boots, a necklace and earring set and a piece of the china and that he had to choose each item himself. Then I got worried about what he would choose so put stuff I liked in his watch list on Ebay! Grin So I get a surprise but not a let down.
Yanbu to want a present that you asked for.

Nanny0gg · 21/12/2013 15:43

He even told you what it cost and that it was on offer??

Such a lot of thought - not!

He didn't try, and I don't understand why you've been so effusive in your thanks for so little.

If those are your expectations, no wonder that's all you get (and I don't mean in a monetary way.)

HyvaPaiva · 21/12/2013 15:45

You changed your mind. Just last week you wanted nothing. Now you're upset because the gift isn't the 'right' thing? Sorry, OP, but this makes you sound like hard work.

DeepThought · 21/12/2013 15:49

Well yes I would imagine that he panic bought something without realising the difference. But why tell him you want nothing and yet spend lots on him? Were you trying to set him up to fail? Unconsciously I mean.

womblesofwestminster · 21/12/2013 15:51

Surely its not hard for him to get ONE present right?

LadyintheRadiator · 21/12/2013 15:55

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HamletsSister · 21/12/2013 15:58

Lol - why are you laughing?

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Mummytotwox · 21/12/2013 15:59

No I didn't actually want anything this year, he spent a fortune on me last year with an iPad and a phone! So I wanted to spoil him.

But I was going to buy myself a make up box, and he kept asking what I wanted so I thought I might aswell tell him that x

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RhondaJean · 21/12/2013 16:02

Hard work? Asking for one £20 item?

Ffs. Op, why are you buying him lots when he can't even manage to get the one item you want.

And yes I do think present giving is important. Unless you agree both not to buy or spend a minimal amount, it shows how much thought someone puts into you. No it doesn't need to be expensive at all but I would expect the person I share my life with to know me enough not to buy me a flew ping jewellery box when I DO NOT HAVE JEWELLERY.

I'm upset for you op and I don't give a figgy pudding if some people think that makes me entitled.

LRDtheFeministDragon · 21/12/2013 16:07

I would be a bit subdued too.

If he was asking you what you wanted, getting you something else and then telling you it was cheap is really tactless. And sure, he may not have understood that they're fundamentally different things, but I would be really hurt if DH told me he got me a cheaper version after asking me what I wanted as it is like implying he thinks I'm entitled or grabby. That's not on.

Tell him that. No sense seething - and if he's a decent bloke he will understand why you are upset and that he was tactless.

ThoraNomiki · 21/12/2013 16:41

Why are people asking about the 'lol' ? OP said she was 'a bit upset' not wailing into her pillow...
Also there isn't an abbreviation for 'Exaggerated exhale of breath indicating mild amusement' Grin

OP buy yourself the make-up box and re-gift the jewellery box. He probably won't even notice lol Wink

womblesofwestminster · 21/12/2013 16:50

*Hard work? Asking for one £20 item?

Ffs.*

My sentiments exactly. How is that hard work?

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