to not want the same surname as my child?

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Dp and I have been talking about marriage. I have a daughter from a previous marriage and when we divorced I changed my surname to her middle name (which works) so we still have a name in common. Dp and I have a child together who has both of our current surnames, with mine as a second middle name. I am a teacher so my surname is important in my opinion as obviously I'll be called by it often. I prefer my current surname and don't want to change, even if it means having different surnames from both of my children. Dp thinks it's because his ex has kept his surname which is also partly a reason but AIBU to choose to have a different surname to both my children and dp?

No, do what you like.

its your name. Do what you like

YANBU. Both my sisters and I have different surnames to our children - it's not a big deal.

I share a surname with DH and DS, as I think it's nice. However, I'm a different nationality to them.

Your name, your choice.

It has caused me no problems.

I only changed my name because DHs surname is really really nice.

Do what you like, means nothing really and you can always change your mind.

It's your name so makes no odds to anyone other than yourself. It will not cause any problems for your children or yourself.

I agree - do what you like.

If your DP feels strongly that you should share the same surname, has he considered changing his? You can do what you like with your name.

I hated my husbands surname so I changed to my mums surname and now my husband has too.

Your name is your name, your DC's name it their name. Both individual. Really don't see why they have to be the same, unless you'd like them to be. Sharing a surname does not a family make.

One of our children has my name, the other has dh's. Fair's fair. We all love each other/

I've kept the ex dickhead's surname as it's the same as the DCs' and they asked me to. Ex dickhead is now getting remarried to the OW but she's likely to keep her maiden name. (She did on her previous marriages.) So that will be weird. I'll still be 'EllenJane Dickhead's name' and she'll be his wife and 'OW maiden name.' I also work in a school and am known as Mrs Dickhead.

Do what you want, it's just a name. My boys cared, but I'm not fussed.

I've never changed my name and have no intention of doing so. The DCs have DP's surname but none of us are fussed over me being different.