Thanks for the lie in

[Shamoy]

This gives me the rage.
Dh never gets up with the kids unless I make it very very clear the night before, remind him several times and also spell it out that getting up with the kids involves changing a nappy and getting them breakfast, not just putting the tv on and going back to sleep on th sofa.
Due to this, most weekends I just get up with them and make sure he gets up too.
I've had a sleepless week with poorly kids and just generally being busy. Last night was up twice with one child, woken at 6 by another child up for the day. At 7ish I ask dh to take awake child downstairs. He does, slowly, but puts tv on and comes back upstairs and gets back into bed and back to sleep instantly.
I then have to either wake him up, have a row about him not doing it 'properly' and tell him to change nappy etx, get breakfast, actually supervise them or just get up and do it myself.
Today I just got up and did it myself.
When he wakes up he will walk in with a big smile and a cheerful 'good morning, thanks for the lie in!' And it gives me the rage.
I did not give him a lie in, he forced it upon me. Grrrrrrr
I'll tell him that and he will say sorry I didn't realise blah blah blah then I will explain very clearly what needs to be done (again) and remind him several times then I might get to have a lie in tomorrow. My once every few weeks lie in ... Yippee (sarcastic)

Why the fuck do you put up with this shit?

This.

To be fair I wake him up nearly all the time. He very rarely gets to lie in till lunch time as I don't let him! Just every now and then I can't be arsed with dragging him out of bed and just leave him to it.

OP it not the lie ins. It's what has led to the lie ins. It's what the lie ins represent. He is being a selfish twat.

Why are you having to wake him though, he should be self responsible to go to bed and get up at a reasonable time all by himself!!! You know so he can get up and help and spend time with his dc.

There are two days in a weekend...there are two of you.

C'mon this isn't rocket science.

I'm yet another one on WigWearer's side - I never cease to be amazed at the number of women on here who seem marry/live with men who are apparently just so infantile and incapable, much less who then go on to have children with them. I mean why? What's so attractive about men so selfish and thick and useless that you want to be with them for the rest of your life?!?! Also YouAreMyRain nails it as well - it's what the situation represents that is the deal breaker for me.

I don't understand how a parent could think it's ok to leave a two year old unsupervised. I don't know how old your older DC are however I think it would be unfair to leave my 7 yo on his own for the 6 hours between 6am and noon. He does it because you pick up the slack from him.

Sit down this afternoon and make it clear that you will be lieing in for exactly the same time he has today. Make it clear that you are not to be disturbed for any reason.

My DH is poorly this morning. I've told ds that he is not to disturb his DF under any circumstances. Tell your kids this applies tomorrow morning.

I can't sleep past 6am and so get up every morning. This works for us because I can nap in the afternoon (DH can't). DH also takes ds out for the afternoon at least once a weekend.

A lie in is 10:30 am. Shower, downstairs and ready to get involved is 11am.

Over the Christmas beak we will take ds out separately for the day so the other gets a break.

Regardless of earning or hours worked, we both get spends and time off. It doesn't have to be the same but it must feel fair.

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Also, my DP regularly got up at the weekend with MY dcs, made their breakfast etc so I could have a lie in. Now we have a dc together he does it even more often. He is a reasonable person, you should not put up with anything less.