To claim all the credit myself for Christmas presents?

[Beastofburden]

Lots of Christmas threads at the moment. People talking about all the presents being "from Santa".

We always had nice stockings from Father Christmas, with little things in them, not wrapped. Proper presents were under the tree, wrapped, and from me, or daddy, or grandma, or a sibling.

If everything is from Santa, how does the child say thank you? And what stops them asking for stuff you cant afford? And do people say that even presents from grandma etc are from Santa? If so, what happens with thank you letters?

Is it just me that does it this way? Am I just old?

Oh, Elf, I didn't mean it literally about taking glory, I was just trying to be lighthearted. :) I agree it would be really, how do I put this, almost emotional bullying to want glory and grovelling thanks from kids.

I suppose I think there is magic in stockings but it is kind of minor magic, not completely serious. Whereas believing enough in Santa to have all your presents from him makes it all a bit too real. And the things that slightly put me off that are, hard to explain, but, to do with children asking for loads of things without also recognising that there are limits to what's fair or reasonable.

I dont think my kids thought i deserved credit. i do think that they understood that the reason they got those things was that their parents loved and valued them and did what they can manage to make it happen, which isn't the same as asking for credit. (Obviously kids who believe in Santa also know their parents love them.)

And I have never liked the thing about "have you been good all year" if it then applies to getting absolutely all your presents from Santa. If you haven't been all that good, what happens? Your parents can forgive you, but what about Santa?

I'm not finding it very easy to explain but it's not about my ego

last year DD complained that her aunties and uncles and grandparents and Father Christmas etc had all given her presents but we hadn't
What can you say to that? ?

Stocking presents are from Father Christmas, other presents are from relatives/friends.

I'm another one who's Stockings are filled by Santa (although everyone gets a stocking) and presents under the tree are from whoever. This is just how it was when I was a kid so Ive carried it on for DD.

YANBU. For us, everything is delivered by Santa.

It helps with explanations too. For example, we have some presents from Dh's friend and the dc asked why they hadn't gone to Santa. It was really easy to say that he doesn't have children so doesn't know how to send things to Santa. and also when MIL comes in bleating on about saving postage we can say she doesn't know how to get things to Santa either

Santa brings some of the stocking stuff.

Here Santa leaves a present at the end of your bed then downstairs is the massive pile of presents for each child in the same paper as the present on bed so they all know who's is whose.

Under the tree are the family presents one for each child. the children have all decided to do secret Santa for the last couple of years between themselves so those are there as well.

until i came on here i had never heard of only a small stocking being from Santa and everything else from the parents.

Apart from the normal stage when they want everything in the adverts we have never had a problem with children asking for things we cant afford. I am sure i may have had the odd conversation about Santa trying his best but they must remember there are lots of children who need presents.

I love love the magic of Christmas and can say without a shade of doubt i didn't damage any of my dc (4 so far to be old enough to know) by telling them there was a Santa.

I dunno about the naughty or nice thing. I remember being terrified I was going to get a lump of coal. But then, I am very sus... Thingy. You know. That thing where you are impressionable. That'll do. Bloomin' heck I need some sleep!

Does anyone do the whole naughty = coal, nice = sack of presents thing?

I don't but I do remember my MIL talking about it being a threat when she was a child. I don't think it ever actually happened, not least as a sack of coal costs a bomb...

We do stocking and one gift he has asked for from
Santa - this is the first year it matters anyway as he is three. The others will be labelled mummy and daddy. He will have different presents from different people over the next few weeks and I think e would be upset if there was nothing from us?! I want him to say thank you to gran and grandad for his present and he has chosen and wrapped a gift for his dad and brother from himself - how does that work
If all presents are from Santa?

My husbands household used to do all presents from Santa and his mum and dad said it was a nightmare packing the car when they had Christmas away! We have piles of presents in the spare room and he knows that some are from him. His big present is well hidden though and won't be glimpsed until Christmas morning :-)