To think some MNers love to armchair diagnose?

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This is a fred about lots of freds.

I've been on plenty of forums but never found one where people love to diagnose quite as much as they do on here!

Random diagnoses pop up on threads where it is not asked for and usually not welcome or even relevant. Sometimes, the armchair diagnosis is just a poorly understood stereotype of the condition/illness.

If a person posts saying they are down and feel resentful their baby, it's one thing to say; "I felt like that, went to the GP and got support for PND, maybe it's something you could explore with your GP?" and quite another to respond to a post asking "my husband hits me, how do I leave him?" with "he sounds like he has a narcissistic personality".

Just to clarify, I am not against supporting and encouraging people to get a professional diagnosis but I do hate the pointless armchair pontificating.

YANBU, I had a thread under a name change that got pretty out of control, it was in relationships and just sort of barrelled toward a conclusion that isn't my life at all.

Made me think a lot about interpreting facts, and projecting, and the jury system actually! But I do also wonder who on MN has been really affected by it. It was a very strange sort of group think (is that what I mean ?) / mob experience.

scaevola breathe!

YANBU; sometimes the armchair diagnoses can be really hurtful when you have real MH problems like I do.

Ie: any bad behaviour means you must have MH problems or undiagnosed SN... hurtful.

Oh yes, or a Personality Disorder. Well I have diagnosed traits of BPD and I don't recognise myself from some of the armchair diagnosers on MN.

"But aren't you diagnosing the diagnosers ? (Diagnosis Syndrome IYSWIM"

Aaaaah, you caught me out!

People are trying to help at the heart of it and sometimes the support and advice is invaluable. Yanbu but if you post on a site like this news flash you will get some opinions.

bella I suppose I'm a cynical old bitch but I'm not convinced that people are always trying to help. I'm sure most are but some just like the sound of their voices.

It can also be very offensive.
a popular one atm is autism.
got a lazy selish arsehole who doesnt give a shit about you?
maybe he's autistic.
erm. No.
my children both have autism and they are not lazy, selfish or uncaring. In fact, my youngest today told me he loves his friend " bigger than the great wall of china"

It HURTS when people read about vile behaviour and try to suggest that they may have autism. I wish they would stop.
actually, I wish theyd take a few minutes to read what autism actually is, tbh.

people always want to put a label on folks.
cant just be an arse. Cant just be a twat. Cant just be rotten. No. Got to be a megalomaniac (narcissism) or something.

Agree with hec and latara. I feel particularly uncomfortable with the bandying about of pd labels as a criticism of others bad behaviour.

YABU

I've had better advice and information here for various problems (thyroid, ASD, teenage dd trauma, anaemia) than I've ever had from any paid and qualified person.

The childbirth board and the breast and bottle feeding board are a mine of useful advice too.

I'm always a bit that people are so ready to trust and rely in health professionals. Like they always have the answers. Obviously some things need tests and specialist input, but most problems are amenable to the 'hive wisdom' of mumsnet.

minifingers - it is not the advice and information which is the problem - you are right, MN is a wealth of help for many things. It is the amateur diagnosing.

Oh very much so,it narcissism a go-go about any ex.never simple he's bawbag
denial and projection to any poster,you happens to disagree with with too
Advice to see gp for counselling,no wait lists or criteria like,just mn referral

Lol,at why trust health professionals,oh trained at uni,registration,accountability
As opposed to someone on mn with Ph.d in I telt ye so and knowledge of mil