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Original poster

To be raged by blank card?

27 replies

bzoo · 18/12/2013 19:17

Don't have the best relationship with my 'dad' he only contacts me in regards to his worry for my sister. No contact otherwise. If she is fine - I hear nothing.

During her last bad patch he contacted me and I said my piece.

After which he told me he'd try harder.

Today I received a Christmas card from him. Blank. Not a word inside.

I am cross upset and I have The Rage.

Aibu??

OP posts:
StrangeGlue · 18/12/2013 19:23

As in totally blank and you only know it's from him by the hand writing on the envelop?

Original poster
bzoo · 18/12/2013 19:31

Yes nothing at all.

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NigellasDealer · 18/12/2013 19:32

he might have forgotten to write the message i suppose....

Fairylea · 18/12/2013 19:32

Send it back to him. Also blank.

WaffilyVersatile · 18/12/2013 19:32

maybe he put yours in a different envelope.. and sent you a blank one by mistake. (I have sent people the wrong card!)

JollySantersSelectionBox · 18/12/2013 19:34

Sounds like an error. Is he old?

StrangeGlue · 18/12/2013 19:36

That is truely bizarre! Is this a strange thing and out of character or passive aggressive in character stuff? Not surprised you're annoyed!

SabrinaMulhollandJjones · 18/12/2013 19:41

Sounds strange - could be strange I suppose. But also sounds like the sort of thing my old friend's abusive father would do to her Sad

I would ignore.

SabrinaMulhollandJjones · 18/12/2013 19:42

*Could be a mistake I suppose

Tsk.

Whatnamenext · 18/12/2013 19:44

I think he sent me one too!

Seriously I posted about it yesterday!

Original poster
bzoo · 18/12/2013 19:52

No. Early 50s in age. I'm so Nnnnnnggghhhhhh

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Trinpy · 18/12/2013 19:52

I wouldn't get angry until you know for sure that he meant to send you a blank card. I don't see why he would do that after telling you he would try harder.

My mum accidentally gave me a blank birthday card one year, so it does happen!

WomanScorned · 18/12/2013 19:53

My dad once sent me a card from 'dad and family' My friend got one from 'T** and boys', as in, her dad and brothers (I encouraged her to respond with one 'to all at no 7 from all at no 9' - they lived next door to each other; she'd moved there to help take care of her mum). I just think dads can be bit crap at this stuff. I hope it's 'just' thoughtlessness, OP.

Original poster
bzoo · 18/12/2013 19:53

Sorry since September and saying he'd try harder. I've heard nothing until this blank card

OP posts:
NigellasDealer · 18/12/2013 19:55

oh it was probably a mistake, cut the old man some slack I suppose.

Shosha1 · 18/12/2013 19:56

I sent DGD a blank card, was writing them all out and managed to put a blank one in hers (the written one is in the card box)

Pretty easy to do to me honest

nocheeseinhouse · 18/12/2013 19:57

Totally what my father does. He's a wanker. It says "I am fullfilling my obligation of sending the expected-by-society card, however, I am above this, and live on a higher plain, and don't need to really engage with such petty things, but it matters to the little people." Arse.

ConfusedDotty · 18/12/2013 20:00

He has sent you a card, he has taken the time to think of you, write your name and address on the envelope, bought a stamp and took time out to post it.

It is what it is, he is thinking of you, isn't that the most important thing?

FossilMum · 18/12/2013 20:00

It could be a mistake. I had a blank card from a lovely auntie once - no way she'd done it deliberately.

NaturalBaby · 18/12/2013 20:09

We've just received a blank Christmas card, no idea who it's from.
Rise above it and don't let it ruin your day.

annielouisa · 18/12/2013 20:27

I have sent quite a few people blank cards by accident and only realised when I found the to so and so card back in the box. I think because you obviously have issues with your DF you are looking at what could be a mistake as a personal slight.

I think there is a huge backstory here that is affecting how you feel. Please do not allow it to make you dwell on the parts of your life that make you sad and angry.

JingleHumps · 18/12/2013 20:42

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paxtecum · 18/12/2013 21:15

I have received blank cards, I have received two cards from the same person, I have received cards sent to the address I left 10 years ago and those people have been to my new address.

You could always resend it next year to someone. :)

Anniegetyourgun · 18/12/2013 21:17

I'm early 50s in age and I occasionally lose touch with Planet Earth altogether. Blank Christmas cards are the least of it.

Edenviolet · 18/12/2013 21:27

Best card I ever got was from my grandad. He was in his 90s and had not written anything in it except for in one corner where he had put in very tiny writing "year-20001"

I phoned him to thank him and he said "how did you know I sent it? I'm an enigma. Don't forget to destroy the card and the recording of this conversation. If you sell it to the papers I won't be happy"

He was so funny and lovely, I really miss him. And I still have the card.

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