To ask for a wedding present

[BumpNGrind]

DH and I got married in August. We didn't ask for gifts and had a lovely day.

About a week after our wedding, a friend of mine who was there said that she wanted to gift us a personalised painting as a present and asked what design we would like.

I was really touched, my friend is a talented artist and I have long admired her work, we hadn't asked for gifts so it was lovely of her to offer. I spoke to DH and we chose a place in our house that we would hang this special personalised memory of our wedding day. It was made even more special as our wedding photographer was awful and we don't have any nice photos of us together on our wedding day.

However, everything has now gone quiet and she's never mentioned in since. I've seen her quite a few times, she's been to my house etc. I don't want to bring it up because it's really rude, but as we don't have any photos, a painting would be lovely. I'd be happy to pay for her work but I'm just too embarrassed to ask her about it.

WIBU to ask her for this painting or should I just leave it and forget about it?

I spoke to DH and we chose a place in our house that we would hang this special personalised memory of our wedding day. To hang what?
If she offered to do a portrait of you both or a subject matter of your choice then it's easy.
When you next see her, say you've been thinking about the painting she offered to do for you and ask if she could paint .
If the painting is from stock ( one you will choose from pre-existing work) I would still mention it. She might think you don't really want it if you don't say anything.

I wouldn't say anything.

I can see how lovely it would be to have such a lovely gift, but I just wouldn't mention it unless she did.

As far as I see it if she didn't intend to follow it through - she shouldn't have made the offer? next time you see her why not just say:

"We were looking through our wedding photos recently - our photographer wasn't great. I wondered if that offer you made of a painting for us still stands as it would be lovely to have something else nice to remember the day by."

Had you ever considered maybe she's waiting for you to say something - if she's not confident in her own talents then she might think you don't really want it.

I would just leave it. It was a nice offer which she's now either forgotten or can't deliver on and to ask would make her uncomfortable. Get a nice print instead!

Are you sure she's not working on it? Paintings take a long time to finish. Maybe just say how excited you are and you hope that it's all going well, does she need you to sit for her or see the photos to help with it?

Aberchips I didn't think about it like that, she's very talented so I hadn't considered that she may not be confident in her ability because to me, it's so so obvious.

I'm pretty sure she's not working on it because she's not mentioned it at all, but I don't want to sound pushy if I mention the painting or make her think that she has to do it.

I don't think I'd say anything. Presumably you said "Yes, please!" when she offered, and if you love her work, I assume you tell her so? In at case, she probably knows you'll like it. It'd be weird of her to drop it altogether after she'd offered, but these things are a big investment of time, and I'm sure she's got other things going on... If you start hassling her, it'll only make you look grabby, and she may come to regret offering.

By the way, I don't think you are grabby... I think your take on wedding presents is a nice one.