My nan is in her late 70s. She's had mental health problems in the past and in general can get a bit fraught sometimes. But otherwise she's okay, loves to be around her family and feel needed etc.
She has always been a big source of help for the whole family with childcare. She looks after my aunts son (her grandson) in the week and occasionally another grandchild.
For a while I've wondered if it's too much for her. The grandson she looks after is almost 3 and I know that no matter how good he is 3 year olds are hard work! And the other child is younger.
Recently she has developed bronchitis, has been hardly sleeping or eating and last week had a very bad episode where said aunts and my mum had to rush over to her and take her into hospital. She was having hallucinations and generally was very very down and depressed.
This was last week. This week she is looking after her grandson as usual while my aunt goes to work and will have the other grandchild later in the week.Now I know my nan likes to be able to help and my even try to insist, but AIBU to think my aunts should have found other arrangements since they know how bad she has been? I'm worried sick but nobody will say anything to anyone for fear of the fall out. I know my nan is her own woman but she is also getting older and is fragile at the moment.
If anyone has suggestions i would be really grateful.