Christmas "party"

[Christmaspartypooper]

A bit of background. My DH works away from home mon-fri. He works in a small team that includes one woman. He has always said there is nothing between them but now I discover they talk to each other all the time and go out for drinks in the evening. I saw a photo of her and she is really hot.
Today he is going to a works function instead of coming home. I'm really upset but just don't know how to feel. AIBU to insist he comes home this evening?

Yes. Yabu.

If your worst fears are true (which they may or may not be), insisting he doesn't go isn't going to make any difference to how this plays out is it?

These drinks they go for in the evening, is it in a group?

Of course you can't

You can have a proper talk with him though about how you feel. There may still be nothing going on but he needs to be honest about how much time he's spending with her and where they're going.

Yes Yabu. He works away in a small team - of course he talks to her a lot. Its not her fault she's attractive either.

You can't stop him going to works functions, thats a bit bonkers.

If he works away during the week, why would he be coming home this evening anyway?

If he says there is nothing between them then you have obviously brought the subject up before.

YANBU to be upset, YABU to insist he comes home.

Why would he even have said there was nothing between them? I haven't told my OH that there's nothing between me and any of my many male colleagues. He's never told me there's nothing between him and his females colleagues... If he did, unprompted, then I'd sort of wonder why!

I take it you first asked him if there was anything going on. Is hat just because he works with a member if the opposite sex? Or does he have form for cheating on you? Have you been cheated on before? Honestly, based on the information you've supplied, you sound pretty paranoid.

Also, you may think she's "hot", but she might not think he is

Why can a man not have a female friend? Or a woman a male friend for that matter?

I often go out for drinks with my colleagues, a mix of men and women. I made a cake for one male colleague last weekend. Doesn't mean anything other than I'm being nice!

is this going to be drip drip drip? if yes then come on what else is there to know and if no yabu.

Do you really in the bottom of your heart thinks hes going to do something with this woman?Shes just another person,has something triggered this?

So did he go to the "works do" or not??