why do some women look you up and down?

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Went to a friend's party on Saturday and wore a smart bodycon black dress, I felt I looked good but my confidence took a blow when I noticed a friend looked me up and down, checking me out from top to bottom. Why do a lot of women do this?

I agree with this.

It’s SO rude.

I’d assume the ‘looker’ was rude, and think no more about it. It doesn’t matter her intention, as you’ll never know. But she could do with better manners!

It's very rude and can be intimidating. I don't find it complimentary at all.

If you are 'admiring' another woman for her dress/shoes then you'd say something positive about them, surely? Because you would have experienced enough creepy men in your time not to be a creep yourself? If you say nothing then you are - a creep.

Guys, this thread is from 2013

ZOMBIE 🧟‍♀️

Come on, it’s not hard to work out. It’s to undermine you, make you feel badly or inappropriately dressed, small. Women who do this are cunts. Tell them you hate their dress, laugh, and not in a tinkly way, and move off.

I hate hate hate it when people do this. The first time I met my MIL, she gave me the slow up-and-down, complete with lip-curl of revulsion (if you are curious, I was what was called a size 10 back then and is now a size 6, or thereabouts). I knew she wasn’t thinking anything complimentary, and I also knew she was going to be a fucking nightmare (I was right). Indeed, she launched into a rant about how husband’s friend from school, who became a tv personality, had a STUNNING WIFE and had he seen the STUNNING WIFE. All the while continuing to stare at me with the lip of disgust.

It is annoying to be honest when someone looks you up and down and then do not follow through with anything.
Not necessarily a bad thing though as I know someone who, whenever I open the door to her, instead of speaking, will first blatantly look me up and down. I hate it but just let her get on with it as I know she loves clothes and some of the clothes i have had on were quite nice ( Without blowing my own trumpet).
The reason why I know its in a positive way is, I have had someone tell me that she has mentioned she likes my style of clothes and commented on certain outfits I've had on.
If I did not know these 2 things, I probably would feel horrible but it is still uncomfortable though.

Especially when your waiting for the conversation to commence and she's too busy checking what you have on so is silent.

@milesymoo Cannot believe I fell for that! 😔
D'oh!

The vast majority don't though. Stop peddling the false view that women are bitches.

I did too. Is there no 'zombie thread' warning now?

People staring or looking isn't always a bad thing. Unless someone is actually giving you a mucky look I would let it go. Even then it's a small thing OP.

It could be anything... some funny comments here.

It’s possible I do this. It takes me a minute to register who I’m looking at when I first see someone (ie if i recognise them) so I could seem to be staring. Also then if I like their outfit I might look for a bit longer etc

I've noticed my mil and best friend sometimes do this to me. Also my cousin the other day. I can say with confidence that it isn't anything to do with me looking good. It's likely due to me being covered in food a lot of the time (unnoticed) and disheveled, as I've got a baby and toddler. My BF and cousin don't have children so maybe they're thinking, what a disgusting mess I've turned into since becoming a mum 🙈😂 The good thing is, I don't really care (most of the time).

I had a new manager do this to me, she also used to regularly forget my name.
Maybe it was all very genuine and she was admiring my outfit, or I am just a very unmemorable person. This person was an alleged communication specialist. Pity about her own non verbal communication skills.
I'm sure sometimes it's perfectly innocent, but it's often also used as a micro aggression by some to put you in your place

All right big ed

I have no sense of style really, partly due to my weird body shape, so I'm always on the look out for some inspiration. Don't do this all the time but if I really like an outfit or garment someone's wearing i will say they look well to them, or ask them where they got the lovely jacket/ coat/ top as it looks really well on them. Whereas a friend of mine is embarrassed by me doing this, but people are always chuffed. Who doesn't like a compliment.

But I know what you mean, some women have a way of giving you a look like you're being critiqued rather than admired, then they say nothing and mosey on. Maybe they don't realise they're doing it so blatantly ???

I automatically clock what everyone is wearing, from good to less wonderful, and if I think someone is wearing a wearing a beautiful garment or a stunning outfit or just looks generally amazing (and is over 35) I will generally say something complimentary. It goes over especially well at hospital clinics, where everybody is there with bad news. I would only comment very positively to anyone younger (because I am 65 and it would be crepey) but I also compliment blokes who have made the effort. I love to see people who have thought through what they wear. And, I will also tap someone on the arm to let them know (politely) that their knickers are on view.

OMG! I just had to revisit this - I recently had someone look my car up and down!! What the...🤔