to think that my mum sending me a card with from 'our house to yours' is a bit weird

[sincitylover]

I might be overthinking this and I don't actually send many Christmas cards anymore except to family.

I got this card from my parents to me and my two dcs - just thought it was slightly odd - isn't this the type of card you usually send to neighbours?

There is some history - we have never got on in the traditional mother daughter way. I must admit I am feeling quite hurt and weird about this.

" she also calls female relatives in family 'mother' regardless of age - ie she rarely calls me sincity - rather mother and used to call grandma the same."

Your mother calls you 'mother'? That's beyond weird!

yes she does - I think it's just her general way of depersonalising female relatives. I realise the card on it's own doesn't seem much but taken in the overall picture of things it has hurt me.

She herself lost her own mother in early teens and was brought up in an environment where women were not really valued - her df wanted boys apparently.

Most of the time it's fine as I distance myself from it but it's at time like this all emotions are a bit heightened I think.

I have a male friend who gets upset that his df sends cards from funky pigeon - again it's the depersonalisation I think.

I have issues with recycled presents as well. Maybe I am just a bit weird myself