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To be angry with sister for announcing out pregnancy news to extended family?

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SJBean · 16/12/2013 11:53

Ok so it's our third pregnancy but it's still our special news to tell.

Lots of family up in Scotland. I have put the news in their Christmas cards which haven't arrived yet. We are 14 weeks and close family all know but lots of friend still don't and it's not on Facebook.

Sister went up to Scotland at the weekend and 'announced' our news to everyone. She's now being really funny about it, hasn't apologised and is lying about who she told which is annoyingly even more.

I am trying to keep this in perspective as it can't be undone now and it's not worth ruining Christmas over it (they're coming to us) however I'm soooo cross about it!!

How should I handle this?

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BohemianGirl · 16/12/2013 11:56

The problem will be sorted when the cards arrive? Even 2nd class that will be within 48 hours.

In all honesty, once you tell one person, its will escalate. I can't see the problem of her telling extended family when cards are in the post with the news.

wigglesrock · 16/12/2013 12:01

I can't see the problem either. Surely if it was important that these people know directly from yourselves you'd have told them yourselves over the phone.

She hasn't told close family (you have already done that?) So she's mentioned it to extended family & some friends. I mean what would have happened if one of the Christmas cards got lost in the post, or if one would have arrived earlier & one of the recipients had mentioned it?

CrazyThursday · 16/12/2013 12:01

My DM was 'disappointed' that I'd told my stepsisters I was pg before she got a chance to tell them Hmm.

Some people step across boundaries, some are just over excited.

I'd be cross in your position too but it's annoying because there's not really anything you can say now.

ThePieSmuggler · 16/12/2013 12:07

I'd be angry too, it's not her news to share!

oscarwilde · 16/12/2013 12:16

Did you tell her not to say anything to anyone when you told your sister? If not, yabu.

WhoremoaneeGrainger · 16/12/2013 12:30

I think that was a bit off of your sister, not her news to share, but also get that she might not have realised they didnt all know. Or was it a "Have you heard, SJBean is having another baby?" If so, definitely very naughty of her.

BohemianGirl Where do you live that 2nd class is delivered in 48 hours?
My BiL sent a 2nd Class recorded to us last Wednesday, and we still don't have it, and the postie has been already today.

BlackeyedShepherdswatchsheep · 16/12/2013 12:33

well. she just does not get to her bout anything else first does she. she does not get to find out you in labour or be told about the birth til you hve told everyone else. ...

congratulations.

kinkyfuckery · 16/12/2013 12:36

Did she know not to tell anyone yet?

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SJBean · 16/12/2013 12:41

Thanks for replies! Am calming down now! She knew no one up there knew yet so def v naughty of her. 2nd class post taking over a week at the moment so cards probably won't arrive until this weekend. We were going to call people then too once the cards had arrived.

She apparently 'accidentally' mentioned (to everyone?!) that I'd be needing a new bridesmaids dress for her wedding in April. Maybe that's the route of the issue?

Anyway it's done now. Hopefully it'll sink in today and I may get an apology tonight.

Thanks again for helping me keep my feet on the ground

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Quoteunquote · 16/12/2013 13:50

If you have already told close family then people know, I think you are being a bit unfair to your sister,

It would make her look a bit odd to the family if she has spent time with them and not shared the good news,

Either you keep something a secret and tell no one, or you share news.

plentyofsoap · 16/12/2013 15:33

I would be upset too. My sil rang family up after ds arrived then put it on facebook before we had told anyone else.
She did not do it the second time.

magnumicelolly · 16/12/2013 15:39

When she's expecting, tell her you've done the same to her! (Don't, of course, but I would find it entertaining to see the look on her face when she thought you had if I were you!)

DipMeInChocolate · 16/12/2013 15:46

I was fuming with DM when she blabbed to my gps. Gdad was terminally ill, I was looking forward to visiting them and telling them the good news in person, I was gutted that she'd taken this special moment away from me. I never have anything exciting going on in my life so I was particularly looking forward to giving them some happy news rather than focusing on Gdads cancer. I know I wont be able to trust her with anything again. Some may think 'meh, once you've told then you have no control' but she knew I was visiting them a few days later. I sobbed for ages, unreasonable pregnancy hormones possibly.

thebody · 16/12/2013 15:50

not sure really to be honest. if you tell one or more people then mistakes do happen, she probably didn't mean to spill the beans it just came out.

if it's a real secret then best not tell anyone.

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