I think a cap is reasonable in some cases. I have not read the whole thread, cos meant to be tidying lol, so not sure how/ what others have said as of yet.
I have a OH but we don't live together and as such, although we do contribute to paying rent/ct as well as the other bills, I do also have help by way of top ups from HB/CTS and at the moment Income support. I am looking for work as at my last Work Focussed Interview me and my Support Officer sat down and worked out that with just 16 hours paid work I would be roughly better off by £76 a week than if I stayed on benefits. Full time they said I would still be £70-£80 better off every week.
I went to an interview the other day for a paid role, as am currently volunteering full time at a nursery and there were 25 people in the waiting room where they were interviewing, so not holding out much hope, but you never know!
I know a of couple of people who have had children for the wrong reasons (more money ect), but there are also a lot of people who are caught in the trap of being made redundant, ending up on benefits, finding it difficult to get a job, and realizing you are getting more benefit money than you would be otherwise, and that is a flaw that needs to be fixed. I also think people are having more babies than they can afford because the benefit system allows that, and that also needs to be fixed.
But if a person or couple wants to have more babies, then that is up to them and they should make sure that they can afford that strain on their income- because it is a lot of money to have a baby.
Case in point- I want to have #3 but its not the right time for us financially, being as only one job supports us, the house I am living in is perfect for me and the two girls, but if OH moved in it would be too small and there is no room for another baby, and I want to be in a secure- well as secure as you can get- job before I even consider talking to OH about thinking about trying... Here I am making a smart choice (which I didn't do with my other two, as they weren't planned).
Did any of that make sense?
Sorry for being rambly, I just wanted to share my 10 cents worth now to finish tidy up and then
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