to not pick up dd when she has a bus pass? she wants a lift as her friend doesnt have a bus pass?

[LucyLasticKnickers]

she is too kind.

Are they both coming to your house?
Depends on age,distance etc.

How inconvenient is the lift?

I'd do it, if at all possible. One day it might be might DD who leaves the bus pass at home.

(Though of course if it's all perfectly walkable, and DD is being "kind" not kind, then leave them to sort it themselves).

Pick up of course.

no it is not walkable.
it is a bus journey away.

this was organised in advance btw. so they know to bring bus fare/tickets

If your dd is perfectly happy to catch the bus and its her friend just wanting to save money then I wouldn't turn out. It's a bit of a cheek that you'll be the one going to hassle and expense when your dd could get home for free... Has the friend tried ringing her parents for a lift?

Of course it may not be far and may not seem like a big deal but I think you need to weigh up whether your dd genuinely wants you to do a favour for her, or whether she's feeling pressurised by her friend

I had this with one particular friend of dd. Normally I'm very happy to turn out for pick ups but it became apparent this was all a bit one sided... Dd would ring and then id end up trekking the other side of town to drop her friend off. Friends parents never reciprocated so I had a quiet word with dd. She admitted that she felt pushed into ringing me by this girl even when she (dd) was quite happy to catch the bus or train. I told dd to just say in future that I wasnt available. Happy to do it in other situations but not when someone takes the piss

If its the friend who hadn't got a bus pass or fare why aren't her patents being asked?

Depends on the situation. I have to pick DS up from school if he wants to bring a friend home as the bus pass is specific to that bus, ie we live in village A, friend living in village B would only have a bus pass for bus for school to village B, would not be allowed on DS bus.

If it's a case of being in town and friend has not got money for bus fare, when it's been prearranged, I would say that it is friend's DP responsibility to go and get him.

At the end of the day it would probably depend on what mood I'm in!

dd says the girls themselves decided, one parent take, and one parent take home, considering dd could ahve got buses both ways I said No, but it didnt work out. dd didnt listen to me, and in fact offered to pay her firneds bus fare.

in the end the friends parents took and are yet to bring home both girls, with mine having to pay petrol money
am cross but have resolving not to let this happen in future.

and of course I feel I am the baddie.