My aunt and uncle moved to Spain earlier in the year. My mum (aunt is her sister) is disabled. Every time they speak on the phone aunt asks her when she (mum) is coming to visit them. This just isn't going to happen. My mum is frail, physically dependent on me and not up to travelling. Going an hour away in the car is a massive struggle. We also don't have a great deal of spare cash to just up and go on holiday as whilst I work full time I also have to pay for a carer to come in during the day to take my mum to the toilet and make her meals/drinks etc.
Aunt and Uncle are over for a couple of days visiting some friends of theirs 10 minutes from our house, and rang mum this morning. Apparently they will pop in for 'half an hour' on Monday morning. They won't stay any longer because mum 'can't be bothered' arranging a visit to them. My mum is putting on a brave face but she is obviously really upset. I'm very pissed off as I have repeatedly explained to my aunt that my mum is really vulnerable and ill, but she just won't accept this. Aunt thinks I could just take my mum to Spain if only I could be bothered, but frankly the thought of it is enough to push me over the edge as I'm barely coping with all of my responsibilities at home and work as it is, and it would cause mum so much pain.
AIBU to think my aunt just needs to accept that my mum's world is very limited and that we can't just go to Spain because she wants us to?