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Am I being mean and uptight or is it cool to be unreliable now a days (money related)

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Upcycled · 13/12/2013 10:01

I am taking my Dc to the theatre this weekend and people started to invite themselves and asking to go with me. As I was the one with time and knew better the details of the show, I ended up being responsible for buying everyone's ticket at once whit the agreement that they would pay me in advance. It became a group affair. Lovely.

So, some people did pay me and some people didn't and I am now waiting for 5 tickets to be paid for.

I am sure they will give me the money on the day or at some point, but this was not the agreement and I have chased the payments up twice already, I don't want to ask anymore as I feel bad by doing it since fortunately my bank account can wait.

I am sure they will pay but how can they be so laid back assuming that I can wait, specially during Christmas time? Specially after I asked twice for the money? I gave them the opportunity to pay by cash or bank transfer and I see them every day, so no excuses really.

May I also point out that these people are immensely better off then me and have never had money worries in their life whereas my family are just going with the flow. The reason why I can wait is because I am very savvy and don't have as many luxuries as they do. I am putting off a lot of stuff I would like to do for myself and my family just for the sake to have some on the side for an emergency.

But I feel mean just by worrying about this money, or perhaps it isn't the money issues that is pissing me off but people being so relaxed about the whole thing. I feel disrespected I guess and this is putting me off going out with them.

One thing I can say: will never organise anything with them again.

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gordyslovesheep · 13/12/2013 10:53

payment in ADVANCE means you don't BUY the tickets till you have the money - this is what you should have stuck to

YANBU but next time do this ^^

zipzap · 13/12/2013 10:53

Tell them that you are going to have to start to charge them interest and a service charge to cover the extra charges that you've incurred (or interest lost!) and the extra work involved in having to remind them repeatedly.

A fiver a day should help to concentrate their minds... starting tomorrow so they have today to sort it out without paying the penalty!

Upcycled · 13/12/2013 11:06

gordyslovesheep
Tickets were going quickly and if I didn't buy them all in bulk at once, we probably would no be able to go on the same day, at the same time and sit together. No point in doing it since it became an idea to go as a group.

Again I could just have bought mine and inform them the time/date of my tickets and if they want to come with me they could book their tickets themselves.

But being a helpful person, I decided to them the favour that they asked for since I was free and in front of the computer at the right time while every one else was busy.

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sebsmummy1 · 13/12/2013 11:07

The question is upcycled, would you do that again?

Alwayscheerful · 13/12/2013 11:15

Send a text or an email with your sort code and account details and ask for payment ASAP.

WeAreEternal · 13/12/2013 11:16

I have been in your situation, in the end I sent out a message to everyone who still had not paid and said, "do you still want to go to the event? Because if I don't receive the payment for your ticket by the end of the week I will assume you no longer want to go and I will sell your ticket to someone else"

All but one of the people paid by the end of the week, and I put the other persons tickets on eBay and made a profit in them
They did huff and puff about it afterwards, but i had been asking for the money for four months, and everyone had promised to pay me for the tickets within a week of me booking them.

Canthaveitall · 13/12/2013 11:17

It's this weekend isn't it? Surely there is not much point asking now as I would expect them to pay on the day as its this close.

Upcycled · 13/12/2013 11:26

Can't see there is no point asking now I have already asked again after opening the thread
I hate carrying cash and I pay for things mostly with card. I tend to spend less and have more control / understanding over my spending this way.

Bank transfers take only few minutes.

Yes I have sent txts with bank details at their request and nada.

Oh well, would I do it again? Probably yes but definitely being more serious when going over payments and not assuming they would act just the way I usually do.

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Upcycled · 13/12/2013 20:53

So, I got 2 more tickets paid for today and the person who owns me 3 tickets will pay tomorrow.

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