to expect my dds nursery to return things

[mummyzoe2012]

I handed in my dd notice a month ago for her to leave on tuseday. I took a card a gift in on her last day and was told that id get everything when i picked her up.. up on picking her up i got nothing but a incomplete development folder which i gave straight back and demanded they completed it and brought it up to date. Dd walked at 12 months and is now nearly two and they still have her down as not walking.. they did not return nappys and wipes and her spair clothes. Aibu to expect all this to of been done for her last day as i now have to go back in to collect it all. There was no appologys or anything about it not been given/complete.

Well, yanbu, but in your position I think I would just walk away. Maybe collect the clothes if you can, but don't expect them to make a good job of the development folder - they won't!

Sorry - probably not what you want to hear but YABU.

So you collected your DD on her last day and didn't pick up her nappies, wipes, and clothes when you left? Why wouldn't you have collected them there and then? How are you expecting the nursery to return them? I would guess that, as you didn't seem to want them on leaving, they assumed you didn't want them at all. That would be an entirely reasonable assumption. I really can't understand why you would have left belongings behind when you left.

Tbf, it would have been nice if her development folder had been up to date for you to keep as a memory, and it should have been for their records. However, they didn't keep it up to date so I think you just have to suck it up. How are you expecting them to update her folder when she is no longer there. Surely you kept some stuff yourself to remind you?

I think you need to be more proactive and stop expecting other people to do things for you. That's the impression I've got from your OP.

Permanently exhausted, that's quite harsh. I would have expected the clothes etc to be in a bag, ready for collection. And it is a requirement for the eyfs and ofsted that the file be kept reasonably up to date.

However, I don't think it's worth making a fuss about. If the nursery ate too incompetent to have recorded that this child is walking at two years old, they are unlikely to write anything meaningful in her folder at this late stage.

Greenbananas - yes, I made the point that the folder should have been kept up to date. But it wasn't and it's water under the bridge anyway.

Maybe the clothes should have been bagged up ready but regardless of that, she left without them. It was her DDs last day. Surely the last thing you do before you walk out of the door is make sure you've got everything? It's no different from leaving a job or leaving your hotel on the last day of your holiday. You're not going back so you make sure you take everything with you.

I asked for them and they said they are not sure where they had been put.. can i pop back for them.

Would you rather they spent the time interacting with your dd or filling in paperwork?

The reason i took her out was due to her not being stimulated and them not doing anything with her each week