Right bit of back ground so I am not drip feeding
Ex partner has not seen ds for almost 10 years now (his choice) ds is 14
Leading up to the last time ex saw ds Myl exs sister wades in and firmly takes sides also choosing not to see ds
However my DS has contact with his grandad both ex and exs sisters dad different mums.
Grandad being older and wiser choose to keep out of the politics and blame and sees ds once a month it's not been easy but me and the granddad have muddled along
Now after almost 10 years I get a text from the sister asking if she can see ds I asked ds what he wants he says no.
So I told her*that ds is old enough to know his own mind and the best I can do is text every now and then let her know how he's doing and send a photo.
Which she agreed she's been texting on and of for about 3 months now
However today she text demanding she see him asking if he was going to the granddads at Christmas because SHE wants to see see him*
I pointed out that I understand she wants to see him however she can't text after years of not contact and start demanding contact and that sadly the conscience of the Decision she made all those years ago means that now ds is of age he doesn't want to see her *and she will have to wait until he asks to see her also that it's a bit cheeky to think that her dad's home will be used as a contact centre (considering they haven't spoken for 2 years she doesn't know I know)
Was I right ????