To just fuck off with Ds next week until January ??

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I cant take anymore and i need to get away !!

Not that i have anywhere or much money but i just cant stay here any longer .

DP will be working all of Christmas anyway so he wont notice

Nurse of course it can be possible , i know that more than anything as my dsd had Cancer a few years ago and it may be back which is what i think is making me even more angry about it tbh

But he is full of hot air and always has been and the timing is bloody convenient as well

Right, well the rest of his family, who cares what they think. For your mum, can you sit her down and say that you think it seems to you that he is just trying to make her drop the charges, but if she believes him, fine, but the cancer wouldn't make him hurt her, they are two different things, if it was right to have him arrested when she thought he was healthy, his being ill doesn't change that she made the right decision.

Does she have details of whoever was looking after his case from the police? They might be interested to know that he's so ill he might die before the trial, or shortly afterwards. If the don't konw about it, she should make sure she tells them so they can look into it, they might decide to drop the case if he's only a few weeks away from death.

Beyond that, nod and listen to your mum, but repeat "even if he's dying, it doesn't make what he did any less wrong."

thanks dont i said all that to her earlier , but she just kept saying its her fault
So they have already got to her , I made sure she rang the officer to tell him what has been said , but he is not able to find anything out unfortunately .

Well, tell her cancer isn't something you get because you are stressed or upset, if it was a breakdown or mental health illness they'd claimed he's got, then she might take some of the blame, but ask her as calmly as you can, "Mum, do you really think cancer can be caused by being worried about going to prision? Remembering that if it's this advanced that he's dying, it must be that he's had it for a long time undiagnoised, which does happen. But then he's had it for a long time, it's not been caused by what's happened recently."

Keep stressing that if he does have it, then he's had it for a long time and she cant blame the current situation for causing it. That if he really does have cancer and is in hospital dying, the officer will be told - that he doesn't konw might be that there's nothing to know. Say it as kindly as you can, she believes she's in the wrong, and while you hate him, she probably does still love him.

Thanks Dont