My best friend recently announced her engagement to long term partner. I was thrilled for her, she's asked me to be chief bridesmaid. Since announcing her engagement she's phoned me almost daily (for two months now) to discuss wedding plans.
She wants to get married abroad, which in itself will be very costly for myself and her other guests, I will need to pay for myself and dd to travel to her Mediterranean beach destination which has only weekly flights so I'll need to take a week off work, pay for accommodation etc. She's mentioned various months of next year for the wedding and has now settled on July. However, I have been planning an IVF cycle at a private clinic and am due to start treatment next week. If my cycle is successful I won't be able to attend the wedding due to flight restrictions for heavily pregnant women.
I've said this to her but she's reacted badly. I've explained that my IVF may not work, but I don't feel I can book flights etc until I know whether I'm pregnant or not. She wants me to delay my IVF by about six months so I can definitely attend her wedding.
Aibu and a bad friend to continue with my IVF? I'm really sad we've fallen out over this, I understand she wants her dream wedding abroad but I feel she wants me to put my life on hold.