So been a bad year my dad and dh dad both died.
Dmil lives 250 miles away and is understandably staying where she lives for Christmas but could not visit us in build up but has found time to go away this week for a week.
My dm died many years ago, I do have a step mum but she is very difficult and not very good at contacting people.
My db lives 15 mins away and was going to pop in to see us on Christmas Day but has just said that they can't because his mil is going round in the afternoon so does not have time. Dsil family always come first (they are all godparents for dn and no one from db family is). I believe this is him not caring but I am fucked off with me and my family being at the bottom of everyone's list.
Luckily we have some very close friends we will see over the festive period.