to want to shout stop touching me......

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lf my 18 month old ds isnt hitting me he is crying for a cuddle because lve moved myself away from him or hes useing me as a climbing frame, wanting to sleep on me, wanting a cuddle,wanting to sit on my knee to read a story or just randomly leaning on me.

When he goes to bed my dh want to have a cuddle or has his hand on my foot,leg or holding my hand.We go to bed and he wants a cuddle and if l untangle myself in the morning lm all caught up again.........argh.

l know there are loads of people who would love a simple hug of their sons/husbands or partners but argh just 5 mins.......

lm looking forward to going to work at 12.30 till 9.30 pm and tonight lm gonna sleep in the spare room for abit of space.

So actully l know l am bu but l am looking forward to 20 hours of not being touched by anyone.

It is difficult isn't it I can't explain it either but we all need our space even though my dds are older one of them has a thing about personal space and she is always THERE !! and it drives me insane sometimes and when dh goes to touch me i flinch

You need to reverse the situation. Literally smother them with cuddles etc and they'll leave you alone!!

arh as soon as l pressed create philip bloody schofeild said about a little girl who can't cuddle her parents feel like a cow now !!

aww no don't feel guilty about it

I know exactly how you feel. Don't feel bad. We all need space!

I feel your pain!

Currently have an almost 3 stone lump of toddler plus jumpy puppy draped over me.

Constantly being climbed on, pulled around, sat on, poked and prodded. Having to bat little hands away even when im on the bloody loo. Its never ending. Ds actually attached himself to my leg as I tried to leg it to the bathroom and lock the door before he got there. He stayed there the whole time I was in the bathroom.

Then dp comes in and tries to kiss me....like a proper kiss and I tell you its a miracle he does not get my fist rammed up his nostrils.

I love them all dearly, but I would like to sit on the sofa without being pummled by feet/various other body parts for just 5 mins!

And yws I do feel guilty too.....but cuddles are great for 99% of the day. Everyone needs a little personal space.

The fact that I always end up sleeping between two starfishing fidget arses does not help the situation.

I work with toddlers and their parents and you can actually see the relief as we peel toddlers of the mums they can breath for a minute

breathe*

It's hard when you never get that personal space. It doesn't mean you begrudge hugs and cuddles, you just need a gap between and a bit of physical separation.

I can get overwhelmed by DS1 (3), especially when I'm feeding DS2. I can cope with one at a time, but with DS2 laid across me, I get overwhelmed when DS1 comes up and leans on me. I know he's beng nice, but it's too uncomfortable (plus it distracts DS2 and he starts faffing and I get stressy then) I get claustrophobic in crowds, and it stirs up the same feelings.

I get this!

Thanks for posting, and putting it into words. Its completely a physical thing, just want to scream 'Stop clinging off me everyone!'.

In about ten years time you'll be trying to rugby tackle him to the floor just so you can have a cuddle with him and he'll mutter 'oh muuuuum,gerrof me!'

Oh yes! I hear ya! My daughter is nearly 3 and is like Velcro kid, I find her so wonderfully loving and affectionate but it can also be claustrophobic especially as I'm heavily pregnant with no3 and the constant touching, pushing and knocking my very tender bump has me gritting my teeth. My eldest is 5 and he's nothing like her. He's very hands off and will come for a cuddle in his own time which is lovely but dd! Arrghhh!

Then if it's not feeling 'touched out' it's the constant noise, chatter, questions. My ears actually hurt. Sometimes I just try and sneak off and lock myself in the loo for 5mins otherwise I'll lose the plot!

YANBU. I remember being all touched out very well. This too shall pass...

Its like sensory overload isnt it. I no longer have it with my grown up kids but seem to have acquired a velcro cat. I cant sit down without him wanting to be near. He even follows me into the kitchen and lays on my feet if im making a coffee. But at least I can throw him outside for some peace.

that is exactly what it ismeddie just over load, I always had a rule when mine were little that i had to be able to go for a wee on my own and for the most part i managed to stick to it yes they would bang on the door but MEH peeing isn't a spectator sport ,

I have to say I agree if in not in the mood for affection.

Lately I've been hating on myself a little but, feeling a tad overweight and feel like my eating has fine a bit awry. So if my OH touches me I have to stop myself from flinching as I just don't feel sexy.

Don't mind my little boy throwing himself at me though. I guess it doesn't trigger in the same way.

YANBU though. I agree that personal space is important but also think it's very cute that your husband likes to touch you in the night. Mine is the same and it's endearing though I've also been disappearing off to the spare room lol

Totally relate.
For ages when the boys were little I felt used by everyone
I just wanted to not be wanted for 5 minutes

It comes. But until it happens with the kids I would tell your partner how you are feeling

Love you dearly but just for tonight can I have some space.

Good luck.

Oh and add not being able to go for a poo without being observed. That really hacked me off!!

deckthehalls tbf on my dd she does have sensory issues and I DO have to tell her that she needs to take a step back from me, luckily she is old enough and understands that she can be over bearing but it isn't her fault,

I can relate. If it's not my 13 month old DD, it's my DP. If it's not him,it's the cat. If it's not the cat, it's my 8 year old DD. I get followed everywhere, can't even have a bath without people trying to get in, even on the toilet I have DD2 and the cat trying to sit on my lap!

I do not like being touched at the best of times.

YADNBU!

I was trying to make breakfast earlier with DD (2) "hiding" under my dressing gown and trying to take the belt off

Awkward enough but more so when the house is cold too!