Obviously I don't think I am 
Now I could buy gifts off the peg for everyone and be done with it. It's a gift, that will do. But I really try, with relatives especially, to buy thing I know they would like or sometimes need.
This year I held off, mums phone broke, was going to buy herself another slightly crappy one, I said let me buy you a nice one for Christmas. She said yes please, I have got her a really nice phone that will take decent photos. I feel happy, she feels happy. All good.
My father? Total nightmare, if I ask he says get me nothing. If I get him nothing or very little he is affronted. In his defence this year he is properly ill after a serious operation so I honestly don't know what to get him bar a tardis to go back 30 years love him.
My partner and I are doing no gifts this year thank god We've just moved do if rather get things for the house.
Now the sticking point. My sister. She is really under pressure at the moment with a job she doesn't like, struggling with childcare issues, an overworked partner and a three quarter built extension.
We have a deal with child presents that I ask what they would like or need and then get what she suggests (they are very young) and she says she is very grateful as I'm the July one that does this and it's marvellous. Great! Do their presents are all done. Do I ask her to think what she would like or need. I say don't worry about budget, don't worry if it's obscure or for the house, you know like a tool to help with the extension etc, just tell me what you would like and I'll get it for you. I thought that was nice no?
Instead I get this long message asking for me to get her a new life, a new car - or a mechanic to fix the current one, a miracle for dad's health and some free time for her bf.
Now I know this was TIC, so I replied equally TIC saying the alternative was some pot pourri in a decorative jar and I could get her a mechanic (my OH is a qualified one) but her OH is also a qualified one and doesn't appreciate any help. Anyway since then I have had no further response. Nada and christmas is now pretty close.
I feel pretty irritated to be honest. I will leave it until the weekend before the big day and if I've heard nothing I will just go and get a gift I think she could like. But if the situation was reversed I would have at the very least given her a genre of gift, you know like, get me some bath stuff, or some bed wear etc.
I dunno. AIBU?