AIBU to feel so disappointed in myself and let down by HV?

[welshnat]

After worrying about almost 2yo DS's speech for months I posted on the behaviour board to ask some advice along with some other things:

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/behaviour_development/1936142-What-should-I-do

By the end of the post and after 4 hours of research I am convinced that my DS has an upper lip tie.

I feel so awful that I am only finding out about this now. When DS was born I struggled to bf, and only managed to bf after 26 hours and with the help of a nurse. When DS finally managed to latch (only about 50% of the time) it would be excruciatingly painful, so much so that I gave in and ff after a week. I was so disappointed with myself that I couldn't do what I should do.

I spoke to my HV before switching to ff, and she said that sometimes babies just don't latch or some mums just can't bf. I wish so much I had pushed further to find out why he couldn't bf, and I feel like I have let DS down so much.

I don't know why I've posted really except that I have spent the past 4 hours with a hundred thoughts flying around my head and I needed to get some out.

Thanks for reading.

I haven't read the other thread so this may have already been said, but, is there a chance he could have a posterior tongue tie? These usually go hand in hand with a lip tie as my dd has/had both.

Wrt bf don't feel bad, you did the best that you could at the time and were let down by the hv's advice.

The only thing I have noticed is that his lip is attached to the top of his teeth. I always thought it was normal and just stretched as he grew. It wasn't until someone mentioned it in the other thread that I realised. I'd heard about tongue tie but never lip tie.

What is a posterior tie?

I think I feel guilty too because I've been blaming his lack of speech on him being lazy when it may be because of this lip tie. It explains a lot of why he throws tantrums when he doesn't get his way because he cannot communicate what he wants

A posterior tt is a tt which I believe is further back so therefore harder to diagnose. My dd had one which was snipped but it can cause problems with bf, speech and eating. Maybe you could ask your gp to have a look? Although they are harder to diagnose so don't let him fob you off. Maybe you could ask your hv for a referral to a tt clinic if there is one at your local hospital.

My dd has a liptie but it doesn't appear to cause any problems with her speech and it isn't something which our tt clinic deals with but I might mention it to our dentist when we next go to see what they think.