to be getting a littl fed up of the new guy at work?

[oharaharlot]

He seems nice enough and we're quite a small team so everyone knows each other and all our desks are placed next to each other too.

There is an empty desk next to me (as of about 2 weeks as someone left) and he keeps coming and sitting at the desk but not making conversation. I have every time started a conversation and kept it going but I'm getting a little tired of it now.

I know what its like to be new so I feel bad, but even when I was new I put the effort in to talk to people, especially if I'd gone out of my way to sit next to them.

What? Why do you have to talk to him? Is he working there? Maybe he just likes the desk

Oh, give him a break. He might be desperately shy. Don't take it personally.

Is he avoiding someone else?

Probably just shy and wanting to get on with the job. He'll most likely loosen up with time.

When adults are shy they can come across as rude even though they don't mean to be. Cut him some slack - you don't know his circumstances.

Maybe he just wants to get on with his job?

Surely if you make conversation if it needs 'keeping up' by one part of the conversation then it's unwanted conversation.

It's an empty desk, he has his own.

He will just sit next to me, not say anything and will be doing nothing.

If he wanted peace or to get on with his work surely he would sit at his own desk.

Otoh if he is just sitting with his face inches from yours staring intently at you but not speaking, you may have a point.

Pretty much that.

I don't mind making conversation with anyone, but I find myself getting irritated having to do this 3/4/5 times a day now.

I can see your point op . Is he making you feel uncomfortable ?

I would say hi politely but not bother with any conversation, do something work related so you don't seem rude by not talking.

Ugh, sounds like one if my ex-workmates. He just sat and stared and gave one word answers to conversational starters. He was creepy.

Could you ask if he's finished his work and if he has, give him more? And if not, suggest he should be doing it?

I started to dread going into work until I decided to just be completely blunt with him necessary and ignore him as much as possible the rest if the time...