to want a bit of romance before sex.....

[BigRedDragon]

Dh is a kind, wonderful, sweet man. But I'm having one issue, sex seems to have become an expectation whenever the opportunity arises. We have 2 very young children so whenever they are both contentedly asleep he seems to think it automatically means sex. Granted these opportunities are relatively few and far between, so I understand taking the chance when we have it, but would like a bit of romance, pre-amble, etc before getting down to it and not simply having sex cause we have a time slot! Or is this now my love life with 2 small dcs?

YANBU! However I felt the same as you not too long ago. I found it helped if I initiated it hours in advance. If I knew we were both in of an evening and it was likely that he would try to mount me like a horny dog, I would start it off early in the afternoon via a text. Not a dirty, slutty text. Just being a bit more lovely than normal. It prompted him to be the same and it helped warm me up! Men are microwaves and we are ovens! Tell him you need a bit more warming up if need be ;-)

Well you don't HAVE to do it you know. Just because he expects it...are you shagging him because he wants to? If so, then it's not surprising he expects it.

Why don't you say no? Explain that you'd like to take more time over it all.

Love the microwaves and ovens metaphore gonig to use that on my dp

Sorry brd I have 2 young kids aswell know how yuor feeling would like bit more romance mabey a night out I promise not to wear my eau da babysick

YANBU, but my DCs are now teens, the older the my DCs get the less warm up.

I've tried explaining to DH that 'Climb on board' is not a turn on, and neither is snoring in my ear at 8pm. He isn't getting it though.