To want to walk away?

[Hardtofind1]

I've been married nearly 9 years and have 2 sons 6 and 2. When we were engaged we were excited about the thought of having family and I always said I wanted to have a career break to be at home with them when they were small. As a teacher I would have some flexibility with job share options for returning to work, and as my h is raf and we have to move around, his was the career that was important..
We had a stressful time 6 years ago. i have endometriosis and had 2 early miscarriages, then 3 weeks before my first son was born h's close family member died. 3 weeks after the birth he handed in his resignation and although I persuaded him to keep his job the last 6 years have been a roller coaster of worry as he won't give us stability and security: he has not taken up options of extending his contract and has not taken on additional duties to aim for promotion. He is good with the children when he wants to be and they adore him, but I have lived far from my own supportive family for 10 years to put my h first, and I am tired of feeling unsupported. I want to walk away, am I being unreasonable?!

To make such a massive career decision, with such an impact on the family, so close to an awful personal tragedy, has he ever thought about seeing someone with regards to depression? Its only an assumption butfor withdrawing behaviour and (reading between the lines) him taking little enjoyment in family life or in your relationship (?) It's not unreasonable to feel like you do. It sounds as though you are not being listened to or thought about with regards to the impact of his decisions. But if his behaviour is steming from a reaction to a tragedy then maybe addressing that will address your issues aswell. You sound like a very good wife and mother. To not feel security for your children is awful, I understand that part, its scary. Good luck x