To be shocked by my friends' comment?

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I have a friend who I respect a great deal, and both of her children are a few months older than each of mine do she is someone who I always end up asking about stages/phases that the dcs are going through as chances are she will have quite recently been there/done that.

Anyway, I think my ds has had some night terrors recently. I know her ds had then quite badly do I asked her for advice at a kids party at the weekend.

She talked me through things and then said as a sort if aside (another friend was there too) "it's just a normal developmental stage, just shows their minds are processing things, sometimes I wish I had a thick child so they wouldn't go through all this stuff'

Aibu to have been a bit . She was only slightly tongue in cheek as far as I could tell, and I do sometimes think she's a but defensive about her ds as he has a few health issues.

But I think her comment was factually incorrect as well as quite offensive no??

I'm sure she didn't mean to be offensive. She was just musing allowed. Why did it offend you in the first place?

oops so many typos including an incorrect apostrophe in the title.

Yeah, I suppose just the implication that kids who don't go through these things are thick. She is quite a bit older than me and I also work with her and she is more senior, and sometimes I feel like she is a bit patronising towards me so I guess i'm extra sensitive about it.

It wouldn't even cross my mind to be offended at something she said when talking about seeing her child suffering night terrors, we all say things out of sheer desperation or frustration sometimes.

It wouldn't shock me at all, I'd think she was trying to get her head around something that's troubling her greatly and clutching at straws.

Yabu. I wouldn't have been offended by that as she was simply musing aloud.

I think you need to seriously get over yourself!

Erm....YABU.

I would probably have giggled. It's the kind of tasteless thing my friends and I say, knowing that none of us mean it. You know, black humour.

I actually think she was very rude, but I wouldn't let it worry me.

How does she know less intelligent kids don't have night terrors anyway!

It's a rude thing to have said, implying that "thick" children wouldn't have enough imagination to suffer from night terrors, I suppose - but it's not that shocking. She wasn't calling your child thick, now was she?

I think she was trying to be funny and make light of it (maybe even trying to make you feel better, like your kid was one of the smart ones). No harm. If you were offended though you have every right to feel that way, but that doesn't mean she meant it in a bad way.

Some people don't know other people's triggers. For me, jokes about the elderly and the unfortunate age related issues realllllllyyyy ticks me off. I know people are trying to be funny but ... ugh.