To think there should not be screws, nuts bolts and staples in my sisters ashes

[Juneywoony]

Oh and bone pieces the size of my finger nail? I've never seen ashes before, is this the norm? Or am I right to be fuming!

I was also warned by friends to expect ashes to be chunky and a lot of volume, they had all been shocked and surprised at this when they had scattered relatives' ashes - not the small amount of fine dust you see on TV. Have since been to a crematorium due to work so knowing a bit more detail.

But I don't think you are unreasonable not to expect nuts and bolts.

I'm glad to hear this is not the norm as it has totally traumatised me, she died 4 days before her 28th birthday under totally tragic circumstances.

Oh Juney I'm sorry for you and your family :(
I have no idea what ashes look like, but YADNBU to think there shouldn't be bolts and staples in there. Losing your DSis must be distressing enough without this adding to it.
It can't be changed now, but someone should get a ticking off over this. Not that that will be any comfort to you after the event I understand.
Sneaky little ((hug)) for you OP.

Thank you hallow, need hugs at the moment, x

So sorry Juney, I wouldn't have known what to expect myself, but it must be very distressing.

Ah Juney, if we were friends IRL I'd be coming round with a nice bunch of and taking us out for a walk by the sea.
Hope you have a friend nearby for talking and hugs. Take care of yourself, one day at a time. :)

I'm so sorry for your loss. That sounds incredibly upsetting.

Juney, I am so sorry, that is very distressing.