To be pissed off with 'd'h

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Ds2 is 8.5 months old. I have done 95% of the numerous night wakings with sod all support from dh. Ds2 has had issues with reflux & constipation so night wakings have been numerous & frequent. We also have ds1 who is nearly 2.Fine while he was at work but he finished work last week. Still me doing 95% of night wakings.

Ds2 has had a stinking cold the last week so has been up every hour through the night. 'D'h has taken him twice to give me a break & only when I've been on the verge of tears through sheer exhaustion. Ds1 has also now got the cold & in fairness dh saw to him last night. He's had 1 night of bad sleep & don't I fucking know it. Tonight 'd'h has basically come to bed with hiccups from his own reflux but made so much noise had kept me awake. When ds woke up at midnight I spent 20 minutes cuddling him, asked dh to help put him down as my back had gone stiff so & was at a funny angle. Dh stomps round,takes him off me, knocks his head on the toys on his mobile & puts him down quickly at a funny angle so he woke instantly. Ds wads crying & screaming so was handed straight back to me & I had to spend another 45 minutes feeding & settling him. Ds woke 1hr 30 minutes later. Started cuddling him but was desperate fit a wee so asked dh to take him. His response without opening an eye 'can't you put him in his cot' 'no because he'll scream' by this time he was snoring. I asked again,he took him until I got back & handed him straight over.

I fed ds, got bitten, cuddled him, he wouldn't settle, filled his nappy so I changed it on the bed. While his nappy was off he trumped & followed through. I gasped which, heaven forbid, disturbed dh from his snoring. One eyelid opened & he asked what was up. I told him ds had shit over the bed to which I got in a crappy tone 'what do you expect me to do, change it now. I'll do it tomorrow. ' He then rolled over & continued snoring. In fact snoring so loudly it's taken me over an hour, another feed & more biting to settle ds. The snoring is so loud I now can't get to sleep despite having nudged him several times to roll over.

No doubt the poor lamb will be tired in the morning & will still expect me to help do the things he wants me to & stay up after the boys are in beef to help with his paperwork. Well he can bollocks quite frankly. I'm sick of helping him at the loss of my sleep & well being & getting fuck all in return.

Sorry for the rant.

YANBU!
DP would be under the patio by now if he'd behaved like that!
Does the LO nap in the day, can you join him?
Personally I'd be giving your DH a kick up the arse, and possibly handing him DS and going to stay with my mum for a night or two!

YANBU of course.
If you are BF, can you get some into a bottle? there's no excuse for not giving DS milk that way.
I'd be going back to bed before my DC had their nap.

Have been there. Brutal. And the snoring is just the icing on the bloody cake. You have to leave him to it for one night. You have to. Go sleep in the car if you have to but hand over everything for a night.

Will LO take a bottle?

If so, leave both DS's with "D"H, and go to your mums or a friends for a few days. Even if not, take the baby and go and leave him to do everything with older DS. It's the only way.

What a selfish prick. Does he honestly think his penis comes with an entitlement to more sleep? Printed on the side as a free gift, perhaps?

This is me every single night. Dp does absolutely nothing and has strops if I ask him to even hold dd2 while I make a bottle or have a wee or something. He shouts at me if her crying disturbs his sleep and will go on and on and on about how tired he is. When I mention I'm also tired he says I can't be because he works and I don't. It's annoying and your lucky if I got an hour of solid sleep last night

He needs to realise he is just as responsible as you are for looking after dcs. Tiredness is part of parenting young children

You do realise you'd be better off single if he behaves like this? He's not helping at all and is just another child stomping about and making you feel resentful. You need to tell him you're thinking of leaving him unless he pulls his weight. Behaving like this is totally unacceptable and no way for anyone to live.

YANBU selfish bastard. Leave him to sort out his own stuff. Is he not working anymore then? He should be taking over half then and if you are working OP and he isn't then it's his turn to take the majority.

30SecondsToVenus Your DP sounds like an utter git as well, I'm sorry.

YANBU ! wow he's very selfish and I really feel for you! a very unsettled baby at night is draining and exhausting! he needs a massive kick up the bum!!