Exp came round last night to drop a birthday present off for our dc. I was in the bath when I heard the front door knocking. Dc was downstairs watching TV. I wrapped a towel around me and went to the bedroom window to see who it was. It was Exp with a present, I said thank you to him and said it was fine to leave the present on the door step as I wasn't dressed and would get it when I was. I didn't feel comfortable anyway to answer the door to him as he has been abusive in the past at the house and he has recently received a suspended sentenced for DV against an exp of his. Contact is being put in place to be supervised.
He shouted "I want to see my fucking boy and give it to him, you fucking stupid bitch" and then he started kicking the front door. Dc ran upstairs and started crying asking why his dad was shouting.
I asked exp to please leave or I will call the police. he said " yeah and what the fuck are they going to do you stupid c**t. Then he kicked the door again. Eventually he went away. He then came back and took the present away.
I called the police once I had calmed dc down. The police said he shouldn't of behaved like that but he is entitled to come and see his child as he was probably frustrated at not getting to see him. As I had explained to them that a court order was in place for him to see his son once a month. I accept that I am in the wrong to of stopped contact whilst he was out on bail for dv against his exgf. And also telling dc that dc should hit me in the face when they last had contact.The contact was unsupervised and I don't feel as though I could trust him around dc on his own.
But to behave like this and frighten dc in our own home makes me more scared of his temper. I don't want my front door to be kicked or for the name calling/swearing around dc.