to be pissed off with his attitude.

[nightbird80]

So I do paty plan and have an annual gala conference to go to. It is an overnight stay in a hotel. When I discussed going I was basically told I could go if I sorted out the childcare. So I had to ask my mil to look after our children for the day dh is at work. He was not prepared to take day off work. He claims he wants to save it for when older dc are not at school. Although he was happy to take a day off to go xmas shopping without dc. Also said he could work from home if it wasn't for our youngest unplanned dd.
The event is getting closer and last night he asked me what the arrangements are for when I bugger off for 2 days.
Feeling really tempted to bugger off for an extra night.
Aibu

Yanbu

What a shitty attitude! Ask him how he's going to arrange childcare for next time he's at work, appear amazed that he's assumed you'll look after the dc.

I know I am not earning a fortune but I need to go to this conference to grow my business. I just feel so unsupported. It's just so difficult. I have to alot of prep work/loading car etc and I am oftrn doing this with a toddler at my feet. I do all the childcare and night wakings etc as his work pays bills and he does long hours. However, he never gets up with dc on weekends when I am working. Ok he looks after them when I am physically at work but thats it.

You need to tell him to man up and point out they are his kids and he'd better get on and look after them, as he is their Dad after all.

Tell him the next time he goes away he can sort out his bloody child care.

I have sorted out the childcare, you are doing it just like I do it when you are at work. It's called being a couple.

Yes thats a good idea. Next time he wants to go on an all dayer footbalk I will tell him I have a spa day booked so he has to sort out the childcare. Or next time he takes his mum out I will say yo need to sort childcare as I am working. Not bring them with me.