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starting to feel VERY pissed off!

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urtwistingmymelonman · 09/12/2013 11:00

my baby girl is 12 days old.
I have been home from the hospital for ten of those days and I have had ONE poxy day on my own with her.
friends and family have been here almost constantly.
so much for getting my head down for a kip when baby sleeps during the day.
I thought maybe today I would have some peace but have received a phone call from the health visitor to say she is coming at half eleven and the midwife to say she is coming at half one!
these are people who should know better.
I just feel like yelling at everyone to feck off and leave me alone for 5 mins.
I have already had the midwife round twice.
I don't recall having this with my son nine years ago.
is this normal??!!

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CynicalandSmug · 09/12/2013 12:14

How rude are these people? Only a few of my friends have had babies but we all send texts/cards to congratulate, then wait to be invited over. In most cases it's been after a couple of weeks and we keep our visits brief. Bloody hell, even I know the first few weeks are exhausting and yet precious!

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urtwistingmymelonman · 10/12/2013 18:51

yep. midwife signed me off yesterday.
had all day today on my own with my daughter and it was bliss.

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SomethingkindaOod · 10/12/2013 18:55

Close the curtains, note on the door saying 'we're all asleep'. Ignore door..
Congratulations xx

Writerwannabe83 · 10/12/2013 18:57

Don't be angry with the MW and HV - they are the professionals who are doing their job and checking up to make sure you and the baby are healthy and doing ok now you are home.

However, rant and rave about your friends and family who should know better! Smile

I always feel for new mothers who are inundated with people when really they should be having time alone together as just a family. The first week at home with a new baby must be magical and I imagine all you'd want to do is shut out the rest of the world. Your frustration is totally understandable and I hope your friends/family give you the space you want x

Bubblegoose · 10/12/2013 19:01

I learned the first time round that (some) visitors will just not be put off. This time and this DC (born the same day as yours I think, OP) we had an 'open home' the Saturday after we got home. We contacted everyone and said that if they wanted to see the baby they could come between 2 and 5. Otherwise we were busy. Loads of people dropped in and it felt like a bit of a party. At 5pm I politely kicked everyone out. Was knackered afterwards but haven't had any visitors since and it's been lovely!

We don't get health visitor/midwife visits where I am so have been lucky in that respect.

MrsCakesPremonition · 10/12/2013 20:59

So glad to hear you had a better day Thanks.
It is lovely when you finally get a moment to start getting you head round it all and gaze adoringly without interruption

Mignonette · 10/12/2013 21:01

Notice on the door - DO NOT DISTURB - Mother & Baby sleeping.

We banned all visitors for a week afterwards. Harsh but effective. You really don't have to have loads of visitors- it is up to you.

I wouldn't let the MW in if it was inconvenient for me. They can be contacted and asked not to come at a certain time. Ours was pretty cooperative.

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