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Original poster

To say no he can't take her on holiday?

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Gcseworries · 09/12/2013 07:05

I am divorced. Ex and I have a flexible shared care arrangement which usually works pretty well. Because there is no court order it means that either of us have to agree to the other taking the kids out of the country

DD is in 4th year. He wants to take her to Florida at Easter. For two weeks. But to avoid dear times it means 4 days off school.

I know she's not 5th year but my gut says she needs to be in school.

Aibu or wibu to say no? she will hate me

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needaholidaynow · 09/12/2013 08:32

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fluffyraggies · 09/12/2013 08:33

Yes another one all ready to post to say HE should be the one asking the school. And thinking about fines. If it's a 'no' it's out of your hands OP.

(and if he does take her, with or without permission from the school, make sure he knows that he can do the help with the catch up revision)

ivykaty44 · 09/12/2013 08:36

put in a request with the school to see whether your dd will be allowed 4 days out of school to go with her father on holiday.

If the school say yes then you can let her go

if the school say no - it will be in writing and you can toll your ex the school said no and therefore he will land himself in court if he takes her out of school against the schools wishes and therefore you will refuse this time as you are not going to get into trouble etc as you will also be held responsible

Original poster
Gcseworries · 09/12/2013 09:30

Why do I have to put in the request? Surely since he wants to take them, he should be doing it?

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Quoteunquote · 09/12/2013 09:57

Tell him to talk to the school, let them tell him if they disapprove.

SugarMiceInTheRain · 09/12/2013 10:01

Let him put in the request. If there's a fine though, I believe it is per parent - but I'd make sure he knows he will have to cover his fine and yours.

Branleuse · 09/12/2013 10:17

for a chance like florida. Of course she should go if its not going to make her miss an actual exam.

NotYoMomma · 09/12/2013 10:23

I would let her tbh

ivykaty44 · 09/12/2013 16:47

Why do I have to put in the request?

Do you trust your ex?

Cos I sure don't trust mine (he has form on this and is a lair through and through) and he would say oh yes school says its all fine, I would ask him to show me the paper work but it would be always forgotten etc etc... give all the excuses under the sun and then take the dc away anyway

If though you trust your ex 100% then let him do the leg work,

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