To think that dp should not have baths with ds is he can't prevent ds from falling asleep.

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dp has always been incharge of bath time, I breastfeed so bathtime is a nice oppertunity for them to have some cosy skin to skin time.

Ds loves having baths and showers with dp, if I have a bath with him he looks very sceptical.

The problem is that ds is so relaxed he falls asleep. He is 1 year old now and his sleep needs to be kept regular or he really struggles. This morning dp and ds had a bath, dp got out of the bath with a wet asleep toddler and ds woke up whilst we put his nappy on (this always happens) Ds wouldn't go back to sleep as he has no idea about time and if he has slept (even for just 5 minuites) he thinks he has done his nap he doesn't need another one! Because of this ds fell asleep in the car later in the day. Because he had an afternoon nap (15 mins) he wouldn't go to sleep at his usual time (5.30) he was really tired and was just walking around bumping into things and falling off things. I lots to do but I had to follow ds around (usually I let him get on with playing whilst I tidy up, clean and so on but he is a real danger to himself when he is tired.)

Dp is working nights so I'm home alone looking after ds alone. Ds is finally asleep.

AIBU to ask dp not to have baths with ds if it is regularly going to disrupt ds's sleep routine? Dp and ds just have baths as a fun thing to do not just to get clean, they think it is fun to do if they are having a quiet day at home.

Can DP not play with DS in the bath? Splashing, toys, bath crayons etc????

And your son goes to bed at 5.30pm or did I read that wrong?

I think dp could just play with ds whilst ds is in the bath and dp sits next to the bath! Ds thinks that bath times when dad is in the bath with him are cosy cudly times, I'm not sure he could like a change.

Yep he goes to sleep at 5.30, it's either 1 nap and 5.30 bedtime, or 2 naps and 9.30 bedtime, we can't seem to find an inbetween.

Sounds to me as if you're just annoyed because you didn't have enough time to do the things you wanted today. If your DH is working nights maybe you should let them do their own thing, if he went to bed at 5:30pm presumably you have all the evening to yourself? What's the worst that's happened? DS got tired and stumbled about? That's life with a toddler!

5.30 is ridiculously early for bedtime! What happens if he has a short am nap of 20 mins and a second nap after lunch where he's woken by 2.30?

Your right 99redbafoons, I usually do have the evening to myself and I havn't been feeling great today so I needed a bit of time to myself.

Dp will be at home with ds for 4 months as of next week I think it's partly me feeling like I want things to stay the same but I know they will change when dp is home instead of me, I guess I need to embrace the change and let them work it out between them, maybe ds will take all his naps in the bath!

He isn't tired untill 10ish in the morning, then he sleeps for 1.5-3 hours so he just isn't tired again untill 4ish, I have tried an early afternoon nap and having a earlier morning nap and then an early afternoon nap but ds doesn't want that so for now at least the long mid-morning nap works as long as that nap isn't in the bloody bath and ds can get a proper 1.5 hours minimum sleep.

I put my babies to bed at 5.30 if they hadn't had a decent nap in the day and they slept well at night. If they were over tired they actually slept badly I found.

I always worried about sleep and making sure they were well rested. Looking back I overly worried, they're little for such a short time. Let him enjoy the baths with him. Sounds lovely but encourage him to get out once DS is sleepy, before he falls asleep. Don't ask him to stop altogether.

I think it's lovely for your ds and your dp that he falls asleep on him in the bath. Rather than put a nappy on him, thus waking him up, can you not just leave him asleep naked in a snugly towel?

Do you think the wee would come through the towel? I guess he would have likely weed in the bath (he tends to as soon as he is in water) but he might still have some wee left.

Doesn't matter does it? If he wees on the towel? It'll only be a bit.

I would encourage DH to bath DS when they're on their own rather than with each other, it's quite hard to do alone. Then I'd suggest their special time us cuddling up and having a sleep together?

You could wait til he's deeper asleep to put a nappy on him, leave him in the towel til then?

If he's fallen asleep in the bath, been carried out of it and into another room, then been put down on the bed he'll already be stirring, he's going to wake up if you then start putting a nappy on him, I would wait a bit, let him settle into a deeper sleep.

Please can I have a child who sleeps from 5.30pm for my second one...?

Awww. You will look back on your dp taking your wet sleepy little baby out of the bath with such nostalgia in a few years. Don't get too wrapped up in rourine, it'll probably change a lot in the next year anyway. Just wrap him up in a towel and let him sleep. The image is just too cute :)

Couldn't you just ask DP to have a bath with DS after he's had his nap?