to want more support?

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Social services have placed my son for adoption, I have met the adopters and after much fighting managed to get a further 6 sessions of adoption counselling, which means I have over the course of 7 months received 18 sessions of counselling.

I want more counselling, the counsellor when we applied for further sessions recommended longer term on going counselling for me to emotionally deal with the adoption of my son. I am aware social services have a legal duty to provide support to the adopters and the birth parents how far this goes I do not know.

I have asked for details of support groups and asked for details of other counselling services I can refer myself to once adoption counselling ceases as they have been very clear in the fact that they are not prepared to fund any more sessions for me, as I should have had in their opinion sufficient sessions to manage though in a professionals opinion it is recommended I have more. My counsellor has given me details of another service which would provide counselling, and recommended I ask the social worker for a professional referral as I would get seen quicker and also due to the complexity

AIBU to ask for more support? I understand they aren't prepared to fund more counselling but they seem reluctant to do referrals or provide help, surely they are used to parents needing counselling and have access to self referral services details?

The counsellor did say I was rare in the fact that not only did I access the counselling, but that I also engaged and wanted more, and social services in my Local authority are not used to this happening

It might sound obvious or silly but have you asked your GP for a referral?

I have and they have referred me for grief counselling inrregards to my mum but the gp sees it as social services duty to provide adoption counselling.

I know it isnt the same, but are there any online groups for support?

I would also keep on asking them. I dont know much about adoption, but I think there is a place where young people who have been adopted can contact an organisation to find out who their real parents are. Would this organisation be able to help? Social services may know what they are called,

I have found there is a lot of groups for adopted people and adopters but haven't managed to find many for birth parents and those I have found are voluntary adoption groups where they have chosen to place the child for various reasons.

I am convinced there must be other people in your situation. Think of all the woman who have to have babies adopted due to family pressure/ religion etc Or women who have illness and are unable to care for their children and have no family support. I am sure there must be others in your situation.

have you tried the Family Rights group?

Yanbu to ask for more support, should see if GP can help.