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Is he just taking advantage of us?

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CiderBomb · 07/12/2013 15:20

I've got a younger DB and he's always been a little bit entitled and self absorbed, but is mostly a good person and I get along well with him most of the time.

Recently he's been asking either me or my parents to run him to places such as the pub on the weekend. Now I don't doing it from time to time, however I've noticed it's started happening every single weekend. I ran him into town last Friday night, and then my mum ran him to the pub he drinks at on the Saturday. It's happened for the past three weeks running.

Last week when he asked my mum she was a bit reluctant at first because she doesn't like driving in the dark at night. DB apparently got "huffy" with her and said "it's OK then I'll walk" and she backed down.

Now he's just asked me if I will run him and his partner to their friends house this evening and then come back for them at 11pm. Initially I said yes, but then I started to think about it and I think he's starting to to take the piss out of us. He just assumes we'll do it and is put out when we cant.

Am I just being a bit mean? I know there are lots of parties and friends get together at this time of year. But it's every week and it's not even Xmas for another fortnight. It never even enters his head to book a taxi.

WWYD?

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Fecklessdizzy · 07/12/2013 17:52

Next time you go somewhere and fancy a drink ask him to give you a lift. If he says yes then fair enough - you've got a reciprocal arrangement - and if he says no then you say no next time he asks you ...

Simples!

itsjustplayingonmymind · 07/12/2013 18:05

He is your brother don't forget
Only if you are jealous of his partner then I can understand

mrsjay · 07/12/2013 18:06

He is your brother don't forget
Only if you are jealous of his partner then I can understand

what and eh Confused

ferretyfeet · 07/12/2013 18:10

Tell him a big fat no,cos you can't afford i

YoniMitchell · 07/12/2013 18:12

Cheeky sod! Quote him the going cab fare or tell him to walk. Defo taking the piss!

YoniMitchell · 07/12/2013 18:14

Confused by itsjustplayingonmymind's post.

WeAreEternal · 07/12/2013 18:14

If he was under 18 it might be mildly acceptable, but a grown adult should not be treating his family as glorified taxi services.

I would either start saying no or start charging him.

ZombieMojaveWonderer · 07/12/2013 18:19

Yes he's taking the piss but you are all letting him. Just say NO if you don't want to do it anymore. Give him the number of a local taxi service and tell him to have a good time! Wink

nauticant · 07/12/2013 18:22

He's well taking the piss.

If you're looking for a sneaky way to get out of the obligation tonight, give him the lift there then at 9pm send a text saying that you completely forgot about the return journey, you've had a couple of glasses of wine, and now you won't be able to give him a lift back.

Then watch whether his response is along the lines of "well sis, you've done more than enough so no probs" or "waaaaahhhh, how could you do this to me, how could you be so thoughtless?"

MadAsFish · 07/12/2013 21:26

A few months back he wanted a lift somewhere and it turned out I was out and so were my parents so he'd had to get a taxi. All he did after was whinge about how expensive it was...

Hello and welcome to the real world. Tell him to sod off and grow up.
Encourage the behaviour you want to see more of.

MadAsFish · 07/12/2013 21:27

Hello and welcome to the real world.

For him, I mean, not you.

cerealqueen · 07/12/2013 21:30

Once in a while is a favour, but every weekend is taking the piss, especially if he wants you to pick him up again at the end of the evening!

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CiderBomb · 07/12/2013 22:58

Just an update I did take him, but told him I wasn't prepared to pick him up as it was late and I don't really like going anywhere on my own in the car late at night anyway in case of a breakdown or something like that happening. He was a bit huffy, but said he'd ask his partners dad for a life instead..... Anything to avoid paying for a bloody cab!

I think it was a fair compromise, hopefully he will think before asking next time.

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SaucyJack · 07/12/2013 23:03

I assume you don't all live in the same house?

So he's ringing you up, expecting you go out just to drive him to the pub and back for free and you're doing it. That boy will go far. Maybe even all the way to the Wetherspoon's in the next town.

raisah · 08/12/2013 08:50

Give him the number of a cab company or better still ask for petrol money.

MistAllChuckingFrighty · 08/12/2013 10:46

Compromise ? Why do you even think you have to ? I don't get it. He's a grown man, not a 13 yo going to a party.

Next time he asks, say "no" to all of it and don't give any detailed explanation as to why. Or simply say "I don't want to. The End"

Does he offer lifts to you ?

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