to actually hate taking my dad out.

[Mummytotwox]

I do it every other week, with ny husband and two kids. We go into town then food shopping. He can't drive or take himself as he's in a wheelchair.
I actually enjoy taking dad, I hate taking the kids. The whine, cry, say I want to every fucking thing. We tell them no, dad buys them everything they want. I tell shout my dad not to buy them anything, he doesn't listen.

We've just been around town, kids have got a DVD each, a book, loads of sweets, fruit, a magazine each. Walking around Tesco dd crying, Me losing ny temper, my son crying over something stupid and my dad having ago at me. Husband is trying o push trolly and help dad.

I had enough. My head is spinning and I don't want to even be here right.now, so iv grabbed the kids and dragged them to ait in the car. My head is pounding :(

We have this every single fortnight. I doNT know if I can cope with kids. Ring like this anymore:.(

Why don't you go with your dad & dh & kids stay at home?
Or bring your dad home to yours?

Get him an online shopping delivery set up & forget the supermarket

I can't drive,.and dh can't get dad out thr car :(

It's the only time he goes out the house is ob the Saturday.

All go in the car together you and dad go shopping and Dh takes kids off for a hot choc or a run round the nearest park. If your dad wants to buy the kids something tell him it's one thing each. Ring Dh when you are finished.

Please don't organise on line shopping, if it's his only time out of the house he probably looks forward to it.

You could still do the shopping online and take him somewhere nice on the Saturday instead that doesn't involve shops. Most GP's want to spoil their grandchildren, it's a pita but perfectly natural. Why don't you ask him to give them a set amount of pocket money then they can choose something in their budget, that's what I do though they still buy ds extras.

I suppose I should just be greatful cause in-laws don't buy them a thing lol

Is there someone else who can look after your DCs?
Or somewhere to shop next to a playground or Saturday morning cinema/ with a creche?

Take the things he gives them and explain to your dcs that they will only get things when they can behave in the shops. If they have already seen the DVD and eaten treats, then leave it for this time and explain that you think they really need to learn some manners while shopping. List 3 things you expect from them (not ask for things, not whine, be helpful or not slow you all down). You will get them a treat each next shop and if grandad gives them anything, you will keep it buntil they have completed chores when they get home. Special gifts kept for family occasions or stored up for Christmas. Delayed gratification is really worth the time and effort to teach your kids as soon as possible!

Definitely agree with valiumredhead. Split up - you and Dad together, DH and kids off together.

It does sound like a lot of stuff but your dad probably just wants to treat them, as long as he can afford it, and he's bit leaving himself short I wouldn't worry.

The children - tell them if they whinge Father Christmas will leave them a piece of coal

Well, your Dad just wants to spoil his Grandkids which seems be the way of grandparenting. Your kids are being primed for a tantrum because they know that you are going to say no and your dad is going to say yes - you need to ditch the conflict. Instead of trying to stop it all together, could you sit down with your dad and kids and work out a compromise?

Grandad will buy you either a small toy (under a fiver) OR a magazine when we go to X shop, then if there is no nagging, whinging, tantrums etc Grandad will buy you some sweets at the end of the trip?

If the rules are broken by either party then confiscate the contraband and ignore the whining. I feel for you but I think this is a 'fair but firm' situation, have confidence that it is your right to decide what happens with your children. Be unwavering and it will soon become a 'tradition'

Could you do the shopping with your DH an DCs, early Sat morning and then get your Dad and all go somewhere 'nice', where the DCs can get rid of their energy. Maybe have a pinic or a cheap lunch out.

warn them that if they winge and cry they canot have the things grandad buys them take them off them till they can behave, dont let them away with it, tell your dad you are going to do this, and do what valium says you take your dad round the supermarket and he can take the children elsewhere and meet up for a drink and a cake afterwards,