Aibu and the answer is probably yes

[mumofbeautys]

as you may know from previous threads i have poorly twins. one is v poorly, we have been in the hospital and its looking like she wont be making it home or past the next 8 weeks.

their dad walked out when they were babies they do not know him as a person.. i imformed ex mum and today he turns up. shocked as i was he is also requesting his new partner to meet her and for them to spend xmas day at the hospice with her. aibu to feel a lil pissed of by this. i have also been told his posted online about how much he loves her and is devastated. aibu to want this xmas to be and the girls like they know it to be

I think the girlfriend should respectfully step aside and distance herself from this situation, so whatever decision you make is not with her in mind.

I hope you have the best Christmas you can possibly have in such difficult circumstances Xxx

he came today i introducedthe girls to him, i declined the xmas suggestion and declined him being at the consultant appointment on monday which didnt go well x

OP, I am so sorry - what a sad time. You do whatever feels right for you and your daughters. I agree with MNetter who suggest discussing this with the Hospice staff. Priority is you, your children and the ex must fit in with whatever YOU want. If he doesn't like it, tough.

(hugs mumofbeautys ).
You are doing what is right for you and your girls, and that is what matters. He has had the past few years to be involved, he can't just turn up now and make demands.

I'm so very sorry, what an awful time to have to handle this too. It sounds as if this may be more about his feelings and what he feels he needs than about your daughters. Do you think this is the beginning of a long term relationship with both twins?

I'm so sorry to hear about your DD. I read one of your earlier posts literally in the last week and it really rocked me as my 6yo DD has the same condition. I can't begin to imagine what you are going through right now though and my heart goes out to you.

You have done the right thing in telling your ex about your plans, he didn't want to be dad when you really needed him before. He does need to be able to say goodbye but certainly shouldn't be bringing his new gf along, that just strikes of voyeurism to me.

I hope your DD is getting the best care right now and that you and twins can enjoy a happy and peaceful Christmas together. Big hugs x