To think being sick is only something people with support networks can do

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Starshaker · 04/12/2013 09:41

Ok I'm not well and feel like shit. I had surgery last week and my boyfriend took a week off work to help me. He came and stayed and helped with the kids and house. Yesterday he went back to work and I'm really feeling it. I won't see him again till Friday. I'm sore and the kids are ill. I really should be going to the docs (other thread) but I can't because I'm on my own and have nobody who I can ask for help.

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bundaberg · 04/12/2013 09:43

if you really need to see a GP then call and ask for a home visit.

revivingshower · 04/12/2013 10:16

yes it is so much easier if you have help. I am lucky as I am laid up in bed and we have managed with dh and my mum and dd is at school. You do sound to be having problems. I agree the dr will come out if it is unavoidable, even if they don't normally. Do you have any friends with young kids who you could make agreement with to watch each others kids if there is a problem?

redexpat · 04/12/2013 10:32

I put out an appeal on FB the other day. Couldn't move from my sofa. Within an hour DHs aunt was at my front door, and I had offers from others who I never would have thought to ask. Could you do that?

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Starshaker · 04/12/2013 10:36

Any time I've asked on FB for help I get nothing. Not a like or a comment. Actually not completely true. If there is a comment it's saying how they would love to help but "insert excuse here". I'll be fine I just need to quit moaning and just get on with things

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IrateCrank · 04/12/2013 10:44

FB appeals are pointless. Think of one or two people who you could text directly and ask them for an hour or a hlf hour of their time. On FB it's kinda like the bystander effect, everyone assumes someone else should do it.
Sorry you are having a hard time

Abrahamlincolnsghost · 04/12/2013 10:47

It is really hard especially if you are a stay at home parent. Working parents can still use their childcare when they are ill. Provided of course they are well enough to get them to it.

I have been ill since October and I have to say that as all kids are at school now it is much easier as I can stay in bed until they come home from school but I still have to get up and go and get them.

My advice is don't worry to much this week about what you get done. Have jammie days, make beans on toast, put on a kids DVD and sleep on sofa while they watch it. Phone and ask for Dr to phone you. They can send prescription to a chemist who delivers it. Use tesco.com or equivalent. Basically this week take all shortcuts you can and go to bed sleep when the kids do.

Once your back on your feet you will soon catch up with housework etc

revivingshower · 04/12/2013 10:50

Poor thing I do think you should try to set up a bit of a support network for yourself in future. There are some people who are more willing to swap favours than others but if you aren't lucky enough to have close family, it is a big help to set something up with those sort of friends often people who need a few favours themselves but will be happy to pay them back when you need it.

DuchessFanny · 04/12/2013 11:59

You'd surprised how many people would help if asked.

I have been known to send a group text to a few mums I'm friends with at school or a fb 'shout out' and been relieved and touched at the help received.

I used to hate asking for help, but sometimes needs must ( usually DH out of the Country !)

In turn I've offered out lots of help and made myself available to give lifts home to others children, etc

You sound in a really hard situation so get yourself sorted first ( call Dr to visit you ) then ask for help from maybe mums from school/toddler group/work ? Failing that can boyfriend come back to help for a few days ?

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