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About photo of goddaughter (facebook related)

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DoYouLikeMyBaubles · 03/12/2013 23:55

Me and my best friend are very very close, more like sisters, so when her daughter was born she made me the god mother. Have a wonderful relationship with them, I love her them to pieces.

A few days ago I posted a photo of my and my goddaughter on facebook - friend has been quite forthcoming with posting photos of her otherwise I wouldn't have. She commented on it saying 'aw lovely'.

Best friend's mum has commented on it saying something along the lines of 'what the feck are you doing posting a photo of you with our . You have no right you're not her mother' baring in mind I've posted photos of goddaughter before, on her own, and this woman has 'liked' them and commented nice things

I was a bit shocked to be honest, friend was a bit bemused by the response as was I. I'd like to just see if you'd all think I was wrong in doing this?

Sorry to bore you with Facebook shite but I'm genuinely confused.

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Puremince · 03/12/2013 23:58

If your friend is ok with it, and posted "aw, lovely" I don't see why her mother has any right to object.

Gossipmonster · 04/12/2013 00:01

Are you friends with the mum? If not block her.

If you are delete and block :)

SantaIKnowHimIKnowHim · 04/12/2013 00:01

I was all set to say YABU, as you shouldn't be posting pics of someone else's child, regardless of nice intention.
I know I wouldn't like it if anyone posted pics of my DC's.
HOWEVER, your friend is absolutely fine with it.She's even commented on it and said "aw, lovely."
So basically friend's mum is being very Confused and I seriously wouldn't worry about it too much, as you've got the mother of the child's permission!
If you hadn't then you would have been unreasonable. Best friend's mum might not like her (presumably!) adult daughter's decision, but there's nothing she can do about it basically!

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DoYouLikeMyBaubles · 04/12/2013 00:03

Yeah I am, I think I'm going to do just that to be honest. My friend has said she thinks she's jealous - I hope not because I haven't done anything to make her so!

Just don't want it to be awkward because I babysit for my friend once a week whilst she works and have to pick her up from friend's mothers sometimes...

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DoYouLikeMyBaubles · 04/12/2013 00:04

Thanks Santa, I would NEVER EVER post photos of someone else's baby without having permission to do so first. Not my place to

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Mrswellyboot · 04/12/2013 00:05

This is what I hate about Facebook. I don't put pictures of my child on Facebook but my brother did and I didn't mind at all.

You did nothing wrong. That girls mother has serious, serious issues. She sounds mad for an argument. I would avoid her like the plague, don't respond. Block her.

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DoYouLikeMyBaubles · 04/12/2013 00:07

Thankyou, feel much better now I was seriously ready for people to agree with her, like I was missing some sort of point.

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squoosh · 04/12/2013 01:17

The mother sounds like a tit and I'm sure her daughter is embarrassed at her ridiculous behaviour. Ask your friend what the problem was.

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DoYouLikeMyBaubles · 04/12/2013 08:04

Oh dear lord MY mum has now seen it and asked her what her problem is.

Can't bloody block her on my phone either.

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pianodoodle · 04/12/2013 08:19

Oh dear! Parents on your facebook aren't always the best idea - I can imagine my mum wading in with a similar comment...

As long as your friend was happy with it and she's the girl's mum then you didn't do anything wrong.

WilsonFrickett · 04/12/2013 09:47

Mums on facebook are always a disaster! Block em both.

You sound like a lovely GodMother btw. Thanks

wontletmesignin · 04/12/2013 11:39

Yanbu. I have posted pics of my friends children on facebook in the past. I never thought anything of it. Tagged them in it, and that was that!

If and when i go onto facebook again, i will think twice before posting a pic of somebody else child!

Dont worry about her mother. If she was happy, then that is all that matters Smile

AmazingBouncingFerret · 04/12/2013 11:43

It's like a facebook version of celebrity deathmatch.

Start a pool on who is going to win.

Grin
AmazingBouncingFerret · 04/12/2013 11:43

YANBU btw.

PicaK · 04/12/2013 11:50

Thing is i'd wonder if this was really about fb or whether there's something else going on in her life right now that's making her act like a moron. Don't think your mum's helped tbh.

Bowlersarm · 04/12/2013 11:53

Oh just ignore them both. Life is too short to trouble yourself over this.

Bowlersarm · 04/12/2013 11:56

Could you ask your friend to tell her friend that the fact you posted the photo s absolutely not a problem and that she has given you 'permission'?

Kewcumber · 04/12/2013 12:03

Can't you just post "No need to fall out, X is fine with it. Otherwise would I not have posted" and leave it at that

katese11 · 04/12/2013 12:59

Did she mean it looked line you were pretending to be the child's mother? Even so, darn odd thing to say. ..!!

wontletmesignin · 04/12/2013 13:04

She is probably jealous that you have a better relationship with her grandhild than she does

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DoYouLikeMyBaubles · 04/12/2013 13:34

I've not posted anything to her im not having an argument online I'd rather speak to her when I see her. I've give my mum her order to stop, she's too bad tempered so she's had to suck it up ha.

Friend has said she suspects it's because I see a lot more of godchild than she does, but basically because I make the effort to.

And thankyiu wilson Thanks

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QuintessentialShadows · 04/12/2013 13:40

Are you friends with Mum (god daughters grandma) on FB? If you are not, she might be questioning your security settings, she should not see it, if you had selected that only friends can see pictures you post.

friday16 · 04/12/2013 15:13

www.itv.com/jeremykyle/be-a-guest

AChristmassyJerseySpud · 04/12/2013 15:18

And this is the sole reason i refuse to have my dad on facebook

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DoYouLikeMyBaubles · 04/12/2013 17:56

quint I have her as a friend, my security settings are very tight so no-one can see it unless they're my friend.

Oh dear I can imagine my mum and her mum having a barny in jezZa Grin

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